Michael832 Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 Im a 21 year old virgin, and all my friends sort of bust my chops about it and are saying that I'm missing out on a great thing. They've tried to help me get girls at first, and now they suggest hiring a prositute, even offering to pay for it. The reason why I don't get a real girl is because I have low self esteem and I'm quite honestly a bit afraid of girls. I've tried to start a few relationships with girls I knew well and felt comfortable with, but they just never panned out. People have given me all the tips in the book to get girls and quite honestly I don't even try them. Anyway, do you think hiring a prostitute would be a good idea to lose my virginity? It could maybe help with self esteem too, but I don't know Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newtothegame98 Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 Im a 21 year old virgin, and all my friends sort of bust my chops about it and are saying that I'm missing out on a great thing. They've tried to help me get girls at first, and now they suggest hiring a prositute, even offering to pay for it. The reason why I don't get a real girl is because I have low self esteem and I'm quite honestly a bit afraid of girls. I've tried to start a few relationships with girls I knew well and felt comfortable with, but they just never panned out. People have given me all the tips in the book to get girls and quite honestly I don't even try them. Anyway, do you think hiring a prostitute would be a good idea to lose my virginity? It could maybe help with self esteem too, but I don't know No. Just no. Have some self-respect & wait for an actual person that you don't have to PAY. Who are your friends? They sound lame Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dahl Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 How do you think that it will help your self-esteem? *please know that I'm genuinely asking for clarification on this aspect - my question is in no way sarcastic or otherwise rude. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 If it's legal where you are do you want to do it? now they suggest hiring a prositute, even offering to pay for it.Anyway, do you think hiring a prostitute would be a good idea to lose my virginity? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael832 Posted March 8, 2017 Author Share Posted March 8, 2017 How do you think that it will help your self-esteem? *please know that I'm genuinely asking for clarification on this aspect - my question is in no way sarcastic or otherwise rude. I think self esteem was the wrong word, I think it would just make me feel more comfortable around women. I've had such little interaction with women that even if a woman touches me I feel weird. I feel like getting up close with one like that might help Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ShatteredMan Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 Just the risk of disease would make anyone with any sense of self-control and discipline put the notion of this plan straight out of their minds. Having sex with a hooker isn't going to change the fact that you don't have a girlfriend. It isn't going to make you feel special. It isn't going to make you feel like a man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dahl Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 I think self esteem was the wrong word, I think it would just make me feel more comfortable around women. I've had such little interaction with women that even if a woman touches me I feel weird. I feel like getting up close with one like that might help Thank you for elaborating. I was worried that I might sound like I was being snarky and I really did just want more information. I do understand your consideration on this perspective. My concern is that this experience may make you feel less certain about physical interaction with women because it would be artificial and lack the emotional / emotionally intimate element. Are you debating this because of your age? FWIW, in my opinion, you have absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about. I say this as a woman, and I personally would not be remotely put off by meeting someone around your age who was not sexually experienced because he'd not yet found anyone that interested him enough to pursue to that degree. I am concerned that your friends are (now and have been) putting an awful lot of pressure on you to rush into an aspect of your life that you shouldn't be pushed into by anyone for any reason, no matter how well-intentioned. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 It may help you figure out your own body and answer some questions about what sex feels like. It may be better than trying to get dates in order to get laid if that's too awkward right now. However going to hookers is not to build up your game or confidence because they pander to you because you are paying them. So it won't help you interact with real girls. I've had such little interaction with women that even if a woman touches me I feel weird. I feel like getting up close with one like that might help ] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pretzel Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 Just wait until you are in a relationship and you'll have a much nicer experience. There is no rush. You have the rest of your life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pippy longstocking Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 Doing this sounds more to satisfy the appetite of a bunch of immature wanna be men ...then you are left alone with the * how I lost my v card * story to tell your future g/friends for the rest of your life . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mustlovedogs Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 I actually think it could be good. I lost my virginity at 21 and it was just a drunken hookup. I felt bad about myself and pressured to just get it done. It was an acquaintance and it wasn't a great experience, but it lifted the pressure. I didn't feel good after. But it made me more comfortable thereafter. I would tend to think you would be better off with a non prostitute, but I don't find sex work inherently disgusting either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dahl Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 My concern is that the OP is *only* (I truly don't say this with any condescension or disrespect, I'm purely referencing age in context to the topic) 21 and seems to possibly be dealing with outside pressure from his friends to make this decision. I'm sure they mean well enough, but I'm loathe for anyone to be made to feel that sex is a hurdle to be overcome. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j.man Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 Honestly I wish it was mandatory for your first time to be with a prostitute. Maybe so many would stop romanticizing what's almost guaranteed to be your worst sexual performance or having regrets because of what we think it should have or shouldn't have been. So I say if it's legal, you can afford it, and you're safe about it, who am I to tell you that you shouldn't? I just wouldn't expect an ego boost from your 5 second timed detonation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melancholy123 Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 If you are thinking of doing this to shut up your friends, that's seriously the wrong reason. If you just want to get it over with, doing it with some skank who could well have STDs should make your skin crawl. If you feel weird around girls in general what makes you think you won't feel weird with a hooker? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ParisPaulette Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 What do you want to do? Look, it's actually your choice. Your friends don't own you. Keep that in mind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J Miracle Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 If you want a prostitute, get one. Jimmy up. But don't do it for your friends, dont do it because you feel too old to be a virgin. Your friends are jack asses, and a 21 y/o virgin isn't that bad. Dont know where you live, but you could go to las Vegas where its legal and the girls are tested. You'll be fine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matt3939 Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 I wouldn't bother with the prostitute idea. Wouldn't you rather be with someone who actually wants to be with you? It might seem to be like a big thing now. Once it goes down though you will probably realize yep it's like I thought it would be. I'm not saying it's not fun believe me I miss it latally. I think you would get a lot more from an actual relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael832 Posted March 8, 2017 Author Share Posted March 8, 2017 Thanks guys. It's not really just about impressing my friends, it's about having sex. They talk amongst each other sometimes about how nice their sex felt and everything, and it's something that I have never gotten to feel. I'm sure sooner or later I'll find somebody, because I know other people with low self esteem who had the right person come into their lives, but who knows how long that can be. It sounds though from the comments that sex with a prostitute may not be the same quality of sex they're talking about? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snny Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 Your friends sound like horrible people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J Miracle Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 sex with a prostitute may not be the same quality of sex they're talking about? Never had a prostitute, but I can guarantee you sex with somebody special who your comfortable with will be a much better experience. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mustlovedogs Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 I don't believe prostitution is legal in Vegas actually. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael832 Posted March 8, 2017 Author Share Posted March 8, 2017 I don't believe prostitution is legal in Vegas actually. It's not legal anywhere in the US. In Nevada there's legal brothels, but that's it. If I did it, it would be illegal which is quite honestly one of my biggest issues Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mustlovedogs Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 Michael, I can understand where you're at. As a female it was definitely easier to get a random hookup. Why not try something like tinder? Don't tell them you're a virgin. Just pretend to be super confident and go for it. If nothing else, going on lots of dates will boost your morale. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dahl Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 If I did it, it would be illegal which is quite honestly one of my biggest issues Given this, do you think you'd be able to enjoy your experience? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Almira23 Posted March 8, 2017 Share Posted March 8, 2017 Michael, If it makes you feel better, my ex boyfriend was 24 years old when he lost his virginity and had his first girlfriend. I think the right girl will come around eventually, so you should be patient. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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