Otmoppom Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 Haven't signed in since last year, it's weird to see my posts throughout the healing process. My wife left me in late 2015 abruptly with little to no explanation. She kind of grasped at straws and the divorcewas difficult, but I was the one that filed even though I didn't want it. I just wanted the pain over with. I had a pretty heavy rebound last year, I ended it, but I feel it was necessary to heal if that makes any sense. The last time my ex and I spoke was last year and we basically worked out the divorce details. She pulled the whole, we will meet again soon, I said no way. There's no point. I did say if she ever wanted to reconsider the marriage, get in touch. Dunno why I said that. But the few conversations we had after the initial separation, she was very cold and signing her name at the end of the emails, like it was a work email. It was just weird. She also refused to give me any of my mail and said she isn't my maid. Fine, I changed all addresses and a year later, it's not an issue. Around the time of the divorce, I was relocating and told her to send anything she needs to my dad's house and he route it to me. I also used my dad's address on the divorce papers, so she has it. The other day I receive a brief but warm email from her asking me where I now live. That she has a piece of mail for me. While it can be seen as honest, she refused to give me mail in the past, what turned her into the mail fairy? Seems a bit odd. Anything divorce related has been through our lawyers. Many of my female friends have mentioned women aren't very direct when they're nervious and she may miss me. The tone of the email was just different than anything she's sent since the divorce. Also, she lives in another state and all of my accounts have been updated and usps forwarded me any mail coming from my own place. I'm pretty anal with this stuff, so it's not like somethig important. I received all my tax info already and there's no reason why it should come anywhere except my home. I decided not to respond until she contacts me in a more direct fashion. If she has mail, she knows where to send it. We went though this already and she's a very smart woman. If she misses me, she needs to tell me directly. But "hi! I have a piece of mail to forward to you, where do you live now?" Sounds a bit weird. For now, I'm not responding. But do you all think there might be more to it than just mail? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hollyj Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 After the way she disrespected and hurt you, why would you even entertain that thought??????? C'mon! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 Agree it's nonsense if your mail is forwarded and she knows to forward things to your father or your attorney. Yeah don't give her your new address. Why? She divorced you. You could text very businesslike: "Please forward it to : Otmoppom c/o ferocious attorney 123 i'm free st. happytown usa." But "hi! I have a piece of mail to forward to you, where do you live now?" Sounds a bit weird. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dahl Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 Hello and welcome back! I agree with Wiseman (actually I agree with all the other posters, I'm just tickled that my phone pretty much fills in 'with Wiseman' now automatically) - everyone, and I think that you are doing an admirable job of sensibly approaching this. Your instinct not to respond directly sounds wise to me. I do think that this overture from her means 'something' given the history between you but I haven't the foggiest idea as to what. I am relieved to read your thoughts on how you received it. I was concerned that she might knock you off kilter a bit contacting you so abruptly. Are you in contact with mutual friends, professionals or other sources? Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Otmoppom Posted March 7, 2017 Author Share Posted March 7, 2017 Hello and welcome back! I agree with Wiseman (actually I agree with all the other posters, I'm just tickled that my phone pretty much fills in 'with Wiseman' now automatically) - everyone, and I think that you are doing an admirable job of sensibly approaching this. Your instinct not to respond directly sounds wise to me. I do think that this overture from her means 'something' given the history between you but I haven't the foggiest idea as to what. I am relieved to read your thoughts on how you received it. I was concerned that she might knock you off kilter a bit contacting you so abruptly. Are you in contact with mutual friends, professionals or other sources? Good luck. Not really. She deleted all of mutual friends on Facebook. We never had too many mutual friends and the ones we did, were mind first. Her group of friends were stuffy and I never cared for them. Is it safe to assume she wanted something other than to give me mail? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hollyj Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 My question: why do you care after the way she treated you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Otmoppom Posted March 7, 2017 Author Share Posted March 7, 2017 My question: why do you care after the way she treated you? Because I do. I'm just trying to understand what she wants. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luisannalui Posted March 7, 2017 Share Posted March 7, 2017 You can follow Wiseman advice or wait until she tells you directly what she wants. If your ex wants you back, she won't stop at this message. Just be careful this as she might be throwing breadcrumbs at you. Only time will tell you what she wants. Keep us updated. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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