Dumped for her friend

[nfootball23]

Me and my ex gf and my frat brother (I was pledging) all met the same day and we started dating shortly after. My ex and my brother texted every day and even hung out a couple times alone while we were dating (we dated for 1 year). I trusted both of them. Towards the end of the relationship, I noticed her being more private with her phone and texting him a lot. I regret not saying anything about it as I was in denial and didn't want her to get defensive.

 

My ex broke up with me for "not texting her enough and not paying enough attention to her." She is pretty needy and said "I require a lot of attention." Her friend texted her/paid more attention than I did and I think she compared us or just fell in love with him. She never mentioned him at the break up but Insaw them flirting about 2 weeks after. I remained in contact with her to "work on things" while she had time to think (big mistake). I guess I felt bad and acted desperate since I didn't meet her emotional needs and she felt taken for granted. I also feared that she left me for him (which is what it looks like).

 

They started dating behind my back after the breakup and I didn't know until my other friends notified me. She continues to lie and denies it after confronting her so I just started NC (even though it's 3 months after the breakup). I need advice on how to get her back because I still love her.

[youngwoman]

The advice is to not to get her back. If no one else is involved, you could try again, but once there is someone else in the picture, I'd let that other person have her. There's no getting her back. If she wanted to be with you, she would have chosen you and not him.

[bellaboo18]

He could also just be a rebound. I would suggest going NC. Her break up was extremely immature so i don't see how she's even worth being in a relationship with. But NC is the way to go, she'll start to think what you are up to, why haven't you contacted her (especially if she's such a needy person) and she'll eventually start to miss you.

[nfootball23]

Keep in mind this is my frat brother, so it's quite humiliating. He's known her as long as I have so not exactly a "rebound." It's quite possible she emotionally cheated on me. She also got mad at me for not wanting to be friends and going NC.

[angrythoughts]

She's not someone you want... she's a homie hopper (what my friend would call that lol). Not only did she leave you for someone else but she left you for one of your close friends! That's ridiculous. You're gonna look so silly taking her back after that. Please don't. Please....

[Lostinlove31]

She betrayed you. So did he. Not people you want in your circle or life. You have the evidence but you have to see it with out the rose color glasses on.