Greeneyesxxx Posted March 6, 2017 Posted March 6, 2017 My boyfriend of 7 months is the love of my life , we have had little fall out and point scoring at the beginning but we always sort things out . He's on medication for depression and the doctor prescribed him a new antidepressant last week , Last we chatted on the phone and he seemed odd and he said he wasn't sure if he loved me or not ! I was hurt to hear this I couldn't believe it !! We chatted and then the next day we began to be horrible to each other he said well if I don't know if I love you or not means I probably don't love you so it's for the best ! I thought ok then it's over I deleted our Facebook profile pic and told him I'll be changing my number too ! Then he texted saying " I bet you will be out tonight? I replied yes guilt free !!! Then suddenly he was calling my phone and messaging me saying he thinks he's made a mistake and he's upset and he loves me ,,,, I was shocked then we chatted on the phone . Last night he came over to my house he told he he now knows he really loves me and he just got had cold feet , he said when it ended he went on his phone to delete our pictures and he said he couldn't do it he knew he loves me ... I love him to but I feel scared that he will do it again what should I do
Wiseman2 Posted March 6, 2017 Posted March 6, 2017 Sorry to hear this. At 7 mos of dating you can start to see all sides of someone as the infatuation settles down. Agree he sounds too emotionally unstable to have a relationship. What did he mean by this?: "he just got had cold feet". Did he want to slow things down or were you talking about more commitment like moving in, kids, marriage etc.? What are all the fights and breakups about? Slow down and proceed with caution and try to find out what the fights and breakup are about.My boyfriend of 7 months is the love of my life.He's on medication for depression and the doctor prescribed him a new antidepressant last week. he said well if I don't know if I love you or not means I probably don't love you so it's for the best. Then suddenly he was calling my phone and messaging me saying he thinks he's made a mistake and he's upset and he loves me. I love him to but I feel scared that he will do it again what should I do
Greeneyesxxx Posted March 6, 2017 Author Posted March 6, 2017 It's always over exes he keeps asking me things about my past then blames me saying I talk about them when it's him who asks , and he said he wants to move in one day but he's worried because of his work which would be 40 mins away , he's 46 I'm 42
Wiseman2 Posted March 6, 2017 Posted March 6, 2017 Stop talking about your exes whether he asks or not, change the subject. It's way too soon to talk about moving in. Stop trying to push this forward with moving in talk etc. It sounds unstable. Is he on the rebound or are you? Live alone and date him so you can get to know him better. He's not in this with both feet, he's got one foot out the door so just observe and stop talking future, etc.It's always over exes he keeps asking me things about my past then blames me saying I talk about them. he said he wants to move in one day but he's worried because of his work which would be 40 mins away.
Greeneyesxxx Posted March 6, 2017 Author Posted March 6, 2017 How do I approach this ? How do I ask him what he wants or where we are going ?
Greeneyesxxx Posted March 6, 2017 Author Posted March 6, 2017 I have told him I'm not ready for that and there's no rush to move in together , he then says but we will live together one day
Wiseman2 Posted March 6, 2017 Posted March 6, 2017 At 7 mos stop talking about him moving in with you altogether. Try to enjoy and stabilize the relationship first. "One day" is meaningless.he then says but we will live together one day
Greeneyesxxx Posted March 6, 2017 Author Posted March 6, 2017 It's all new to me as I was married for 18 years now divorced for 2 it's like I don't know how to be with a relationship , I do love him and I can see a future but after Friday I feel I can't trust him and he's a time bomb and will do it again , I don't want to pressure him with questions I need reassuring, he says he won't do it again and he knows he loves me I feel he's taken that little spark away
Greeneyesxxx Posted March 6, 2017 Author Posted March 6, 2017 I joined this site because I have no one to talk to I can't talk to family because they can be judgemental and give wrong advice
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