How can i get her back

[PatrickBoni]

Here's my story. My gf of almost 3 years said she needed space. This happened just this past january 16. I was so angry back then and on the first week she cried on the phone while she calls me and i told her that we are done. Now, tables have turned. I want her back. I have plans to marry her and because of my anger, i drove her away. I begged, pleaded , grand gestures or what have you. I did it. We went out a couple of times and it was very painful for me cause she doesnt want to talk about the breakup and shes cold around me. She always tells me that she loves me and that ill be the last man that she will love. We still kiss, hold hands and all but she is still cold. I dont know what to do.

[Wiseman2]

Why were you angry and what was the breakup about?

 

Doesn't this seem like mixed signals? still kiss, hold hands and all but she is still cold.

[PatrickBoni]

I was angry when she asked for space. The reason that she wanted space was because she is no longer happy. I got upset when she requests something. She felt that shes the only one who is doing the effort on the relationship.

 

That really is confusing. And she still says that she loves me, misses me and im the last man that she'll love. Im on my 1st day of NC

[PatrickBoni]

Btw i was angry because it was out of the blue. She never gave me any reason and we just had a great date the night before it happened.

[Hds2014]

If they ask for space, give it to them. Can't stress this enough. The more you do to try and salvage your relationship after she specifically asked for space, the more damage you'll do. She probably still loves you, and is unsure, but give her what she needs. Anything else pushes her away.

[PatrickBoni]

I really am stupid. All this time i kept on showing up to her face. I just miss her and want her back. I just hope its not too late.

[PatrickBoni]

But she still trying to keep contact with me.

[PatrickBoni]

Just an update. She agreed to talk to me on march 16, i dont know what to do or say. I am freaking out.

[Brkn4592]

I think you need to take a week and write out some notes so you have talking points to refer to if you get nervous/off track.

Tell her that initially her request for space shocked you, but you respect that and would like to know why she feels she needs space from you (are you smothering her, being annoying to her, etc).

Then tell her why you want to be together and perhaps suggest that you work on your communication going forwards if you are to remain together.

 

Without knowing much about your relationship that is just a couple of suggestions

[PatrickBoni]

I really appreciate this. Thank you.

 

She said that i was too complacent and when she asked for space, i didnt fight for her. I instead got real angry and told her to leave. The first week we broke up, she calls me and just cries over the phone and i just hang up on her. Its like the tables have turned and i really want her back. I really am freaking out. I know i cant expect anything but its just that my mind is going like 2000000 miles per hour