Tuna010 Posted March 4, 2017 Share Posted March 4, 2017 I guess I just wanted some views on my breakup. I was with this guy for a few intense months and thought he was the one, I'd never felt like this before but it all went so wrong. Basically he got it in his head I was cheating on him with my ex (who had got upset when he saw I had a new bf but asides from that we had no contact). Anyway my new bf got progressively weird in the week to the break up, he stopped eating, starting saying weird things, said his mind was going crazy, and kept saying he didn't want to ruin this and was worried he was going to stuff it up somehow... Then he just came at me crying saying he knew I was still seeing my ex and I needed to get professional help and that once I admitted to it we could get through it I just needed to come clean, he was crying and shaking and so distressed about it saying he wanted to save me and he would save me from him. I couldn't admit to something I never did and then he admitted the next day he made a mistake and tried so hard to amend it and begged for another chance, I said I wasn't sure then he got convinced it wasn't me in my phone and it was my ex controlling my phone and that he couldn't talk on my phone because he knew it wasn't me he was talking to and rang my mum and dad while I was at work telling them he was worried for my safety because my ex was manipulating me and I wasn't really at work I was with him. Then started messaging a few of my friends asking them to look after me because he was worried for my safety because of my ex and listed evidence as to why he thought I was being controlled. This went on for a few months intermittently. He then sent a final message saying that he realised I was unconscious frame of mind and that is why I had slipped back with my ex and it helped him accept it knowing I wasn't in my right consciousness and he couldn't be a part of this dreadful act of betrayal and that he forgives me but that for my own sake I should seek help... then randomly left a note at my house in the middle of the night saying he would get a restraining order on me if I contact him (I had never tried to contact him I'd blocked him on everything) then he made fake fb accounts asking if we could be friends, when I said no he came to the conclusion me and my ex are just "meant to be" sighhhh I have not had a lot of relationships but I don't know what the hell happened and I feel so sad but really maybe I should just feel relieved? I just liked him so much before that happened at the end and had so much hope for us 😔 Link to comment
boltnrun Posted March 4, 2017 Share Posted March 4, 2017 He is in serious need of immediate professional help. Link to comment
junebug123 Posted March 4, 2017 Share Posted March 4, 2017 I just think the relationship brought up some insecurity issues he was having. And for his own sanity he needed to end it. I think what happened was good for him a growth experience, but that he probably felt that once he was feeling better he could maintain the relationship. You of course weren't comfortable with that and didn't want to continue dating and that's fine. Sometimes we meet people that have a strong impact in our lives and even change us. All you can do is move on and miss him but know that he has these issues and that he would need to work on. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted March 4, 2017 Share Posted March 4, 2017 He is in serious need of immediate professional help. Agreed...... Link to comment
Jeffbobo Posted March 4, 2017 Share Posted March 4, 2017 This is just bat arse crazy. I agree with other posters in that he needs professional help. You may not see it now but I think you summed it up by saying you shouid feel relieved. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted March 4, 2017 Share Posted March 4, 2017 Sorry to hear this. It sounds like you dodged a bullet and he's got some serious drug or mental problems. Stay strict no contact and delete and block him from all social media and messaging. Give your friends and family the heads up that he's having a psychotic episode and to not engage him.I was with this guy for a few intense months. got progressively weird in the week to the break up, he stopped eating, starting saying weird things, said his mind was going crazy, he wanted to save me and he would save me from him... then randomly left a note at my house in the middle of the night saying he would get a restraining order on me if I contact him. Link to comment
abitbroken Posted March 4, 2017 Share Posted March 4, 2017 Cut all ties with this guy. he is off his rocker. Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted March 4, 2017 Share Posted March 4, 2017 Holy Moly. . He hears voices. Enough said. Do you know anything about his past or past relationships? Link to comment
Tuna010 Posted March 4, 2017 Author Share Posted March 4, 2017 Holy Moly. . He hears voices. Enough said. Do you know anything about his past or past relationships? Well I did contact his family when it was going on as I was worried for his health and really wasn't sure of what he was capable of, they didn't seem to think anything was too weird about his behaviour and his ex gf said he never did anything like that with her, however she said he can't handle weed... he did say when he was trying to make it work that he was going to go back on "medication" which had never come up before... Link to comment
Tuna010 Posted March 4, 2017 Author Share Posted March 4, 2017 This is just bat arse crazy. I agree with other posters in that he needs professional help. You may not see it now but I think you summed it up by saying you shouid feel relieved. Yes I think I have too, considering there is so much more stuff he did just as bad if not worse then what I mentioned here in this post! Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted March 4, 2017 Share Posted March 4, 2017 Stay away from him and his family and people. He belongs in a hospital, not a relationship if he's having a manic psychotic episode.he did say when he was trying to make it work that he was going to go back on "medication" Link to comment
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