Christ..where to put it...

[gary1958]

So like we ended it 10 yrs ago Sunday.. She has tried to contact over the years. I have remained no contact all that time.. except when my parents died.. thanked her.. I think she was creeping my Facebook.. Contacted me the day both obituaries were posted.. Not really sure why I am posting.. It has been 10 years.. I am still angry.. she ran out.. mid sex .,,, ending it.. She had panic anxiety.. I loved her .. it killed me.. she befriended my friends and blackballed me.. I dumped them all.. She has tried to make contact many times since... I dont.. I think I have moved on,.. but hen i am so angry at what one person could ing do to another..

[Ms Darcy]

10 years is a long time to still be angry ...

[lostandhurt]

What are you angry about?

 

That she panicked and left? That after all this time you still have feelings for her? That you haven't loved like that since and think she ruined a great thing?

 

It sounds like neither of you have found closure. It has been 10 years of NC and it hasn't worked so why don't you meet her for coffee and talk things out. You really have nothing to loose and a lot to gain.

 

Lost

[SherrySher]

You have to somehow forgive her. Forgiving someone does NOT mean that you will be with them again or that you will ever trust them again. Forgiving only means that you will let the past go and whatever upsets she caused, will now be left in the past.

This is for your own sake, not for hers and not to get back with her. But what most people don't realise is that if you hold onto anger for this long, you essentially become that person's prisoner. You let them control your emotions, even 10 years later. You let the resentment and hurt and pain and anger live inside of you and remain there.

This doesn't hurt the other person, it only hurts you.

It starts to fester and will affect you mentally and physically.

Take back your own emotions. Forgive her for her flaws, release the pain she caused and don't keep looking back. Move forward with your life and let the past finally be the past.

Again, this is for your own well being and nothing to do with her.