Thosaigh Posted March 3, 2017 Share Posted March 3, 2017 I'll try to keep this short but please stay with me when I give a little background My girlfriend and I have been going out about 2.5 years and living together for the last 4 months. I met this woman let's call her Kate online about a year before I met my girlfriend and we had exchanged emails back and forth but we never met up in person, but once I started going out with my girlfriend I stopped. About 1.5 years into the relationship we were going through a bit of a rocky stage and I got an email from Kate asking how things were and I told her things weren't great and things progress from there back into sexting on and off we mightn't email for a month and then there be a day or two of back and forward between us which could be fairly mundane to highly explicit saying what we would do to eachother if we ever met, which we both knew would never happen as we were both happy in our relationships. I know I was doing it just for the buzz and rush of doing something I knew I shouldn't be. I'm not defending my actions I know it was wrong and I shouldn't have done it. Right that's the background now it's time to move into the problem. About 7 weeks ago my gf was using my laptop while I was working nights and an email came in and she read it and it was from Kate it was nothing major just her saying hi we hadn't really chatted in the previous 2 months since I moved in with my gf, but unfortunately she had sent it from a previous chat we had and my gf could see the thread of what we had been saying. The next morning when I got in my girlfriend confronted me about it and asked me to leave. I went to stay with a friend and a week later after little to no contact she asked me to come over to talk which I did and at the end of it she asked me to move back in but I'd be sleeping in the spare room. After about 5 days which were awkward with constant talking and questions from my gf she asked me to move out again which I did back to my friend. About 8 days later it was her birthday and she asked me to come over and I did with a birthday cake and card for her. We talked again and she asked me to move back in again which is where I've been since. I'm still in the spare bedroom and we have had our ups and downs for the last few weeks, with me calling it a day and leaving once because she went out with friends at 3pm and didn't come home until 5am with no response to any of my texts asking if she was ok. She called me crying and saying I wasn't the one who got to finish it, we sat down and I told her I couldn't deal with her her passive agressive behaviour towards if she had a problem she had to talk to me about it. I though we were working through it as last Sunday she said she wanted us to give it a go but today she turned around and said she wasnt sure about us again and wants to give notice on our house and move out and live separately and see if we can make things work that way. I personally think if we are to make it work we would be better off living together, where we can talk and spend time together as I work shift work and am not around every evening or weekend. I know at least one of her friends is putting pressure on her to end it. What I'm asking is am I better to make things easy for both of us and end it or to do as she asked and live separately and hope it works. I am willing to work hard to regain her trust and I have been open and honest to her about everything, given her full access to all my emails, social media phone etc. Sorry for my post been so long Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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