Hds2014 Posted March 3, 2017 Share Posted March 3, 2017 Hey all, I've been on this forum for a couple of weeks now. Going through my own breakup that happened about 4 months ago now. I explain my situation a little better on the second page of this discussion. She asked for space to focus on herself, school, her future, etc...please read my situation before you give input. I've done all the right things NC wise as of 2 weeks ago now but as of late I've had a friend of mine come to me to tell me my ex seems to have a new guy in her life. I don't have any concrete evidence of course that it's anything serious or romantic yet, but nonetheless there seems to be a third party because of what they post online. Stupid enough I did some lurking on him which only burned me in the end and caused me to overthink small things of course, so now I'm feeling totally beat down like I'm back to square one. I still have her unfriended on everything and now because of this news/my actions I've blocked him everywhere as well just to avoid seeing anything through mutual friends. I guess I had my hopes up that giving her the space she wanted and needed and her persistence in saying there was no one else/nor did she want a relationship right now caused me to feel like she'd eventually come back to me. I know this is still a possibility and this new guy may very well just be an attention thing for her but I simply can't handle the anxiety of feeling stuck anymore. What are your suggestions on really truly pushing forward and letting go even if the dumper hinted at a reconnection in the future? I'm trying my best but I still feel some guilt and uneasiness for initiating the NC without telling her. Clearly it isn't bothering her that much as she hasn't said a thing but for whatever reason I don't feel in power over myself anymore like I did prior to hearing this news. I have issues with over analyzing and overthinking especially when it comes to social media, and it always holds me back from healing 100%. I've had friends suggest I ask her about it but I'm adamant about not breaking my NC streak, and I refuse to wind up embarrassing myself if he truly isn't anything more than a friend. I've not blocked my ex everywhere in order to keep communication lines open, however she is unfriended. I don't want to go on a crazy blocking streak now either and have it seem reactive this late in the game. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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