Fiancee likes a lot of sexy girls pages on Facebook and a whole porn like group?

[JumpJalapeno]

Many of these pages he probably liked a long time ago, he likes a ton of pages but many of them are sexy celebrities or semi celebrities.

He's also in a group that is pretty much amateur porn/ random girls being sexy, he even showed me it once he says his friend created it and added him... but now it's bothering me. It is perfectly fair for me to ask him to not be in that group that I think?

Partly it's because he's masturbating a lot, more than we have sex, and I would love more sex...I don't know why but I'm just trying to wait and see if it will change. Also he always says no when I ask if he watches porn. Yet he says I'm sexy and everything.

So basically I feel very confused and of course need to talk to him...

[Wiseman2]

Unfortunately he sounds a bit lazy and selfish if he never gives oral and just prefers to masturbate to pictures/videos a lot.

When we first got together it was good though of course that's the honeymoon time but still when we have sex it's good. He's never been interested in giving but he has a bit and says he'll try it again and he likes receiving but only if he's clean.

[newtothegame98]

Yeah I would bring it up asap if it bothers you. I've personally never understood the need for porn if you have a partner. However, some guys still like it. I don't think it's overly-weird. But it is bothering you. Talk it out

[Snny]

You do realize that a "fiancee" is an engaged woman, yes?

 

he says his friend created it and added him... but now it's bothering me. It is perfectly fair for me to ask him to not be in that group that I think?

Good luck fighting this battle over telling a man not to participate in an activity with his friends.

 

The only thing you can say to him is that him excessively viewing porn bothers you, and that you feel neglected on a sexual level. Then hear what he has to say. Then see what he does. Based on your description, he has an addiction on Pornography- it the addiction that's the problem, not the porn.

[Matt3939]

If it bothers you I'd say something. I see nothing wrong with porn. Are you 2 living together? Home every night same bed? Then yes I think he should lay off it. Now if you only see each other on the weekends then what do you expect.

[Ms Darcy]

I had a long response, but it's not worth it.

 

He's a loser and I wouldn't marry him if I were you.

[JumpJalapeno]

Well this wasn't always a problem.. so I would think it can be fixed...

[Ms Darcy]

By "fixed" you mean, surely I can make him act the way I want him to act.

 

Again, life experience ... trying to change him is a lost cause.

[JumpJalapeno]

Well this has only happened about 1/6 of our relationship so I don't think it's normally him...

[j.man]

I would think it can be fixed...

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HERE WE GO AGAIN

[Wiseman2]

How do you plan to fix it?

So some months ago my boyfriend started not finishing when we had sex more often than not. When I would ask he would say it's not me or that he's tired or his head hurts.

Now we're having sex less and he masturbates every time I'm gone. I already want more sex than him and he would even say it's crazy to want sex like three times a week but yet he masturbated literally five days in a row. I am willing to do different things but he is apparently not interested in that.

[Live-N-Learn]

IMO porn is a symptom of a deeper root issue. That's what he needs to address in his life. Most likely he doesn't even recognize there is an issue. You can not fix him or change him. Once you cross the line of trying it's called co-dependency.

 

My advice is to get out. He is not emotionally healthy.

 

Best of luck,

LNL

[BeenThereB4]

A fiancée is a woman. A fiancé is a man.