Is he not intetested

[bri2017]

Went out with this guy on Saturday and it went pretty well at the end of the night he said he would text me in the morning and see what I was doing next weekend. He texted the next day and we talked for a bit and then disappeared. He didn't text me on Monday, which he always texted me in the morning, so I texted him and we talked for a bit and I haven't heard from him since then. Idk what to do

[Wiseman2]

How did the date go? Stop texting and see if he comes through on his own. Hopefully he's not one of those multidating flakes.

Went out with this guy on Saturday and it went pretty well at the end of the night he said he would text me in the morning and see what I was doing next weekend.

[annie24]

Went out with this guy on Saturday and it went pretty well at the end of the night he said he would text me in the morning and see what I was doing next weekend. He texted the next day and we talked for a bit and then disappeared. He didn't text me on Monday, which he always texted me in the morning, so I texted him and we talked for a bit and I haven't heard from him since then. Idk what to do

 

welcome to ENA. I suggest you do nothing. You already texted him to initiate the conversation so I think you've signaled your interest. See if he asks you out for the weekend. If he doesn't, that's your answer.

[JaggerJim]

Well that's the ups and downs of dating. As long as your putting forward your effort, and he does not put in his effort, then chalk it up to that.

 

It's early days, and since he is not ignoring you as such, just try to focus on other things. He may, or may not continue talking to you, you will just have to see. If you don't hear from him as in making another date in say 2 weeks, then just quietly move on and find someone else.

[bri2017]

How did the date go? Stop texting and see if he comes through on his own. Hopefully he's not one of those multidating flakes.

 

I thought it went good. He was shy at first but started talking more as the date went on. He didn't try anything though and somehow the conversation the next day got to where I said I thought he wasn't interested bc he didn't and he said he likes to take it slow which I said I didn't I like touching not sex but touching so idk if it was something I said or what.

[vesper]

I would move on. Have some respect for yourself.

[Batya33]

He may have felt uncomfortable with your need for reassurance after one date. I agree with Annie -next time show the person that you are comfortable in your own skin and try not to confront the person about his level of interest -if he is interested you will know because he will ask you out again.

[Abby01]

I thought it went good. He was shy at first but started talking more as the date went on. He didn't try anything though and somehow the conversation the next day got to where I said I thought he wasn't interested bc he didn't and he said he likes to take it slow which I said I didn't I like touching not sex but touching so idk if it was something I said or what.

Yea stop texting and if he didnt text back in a week or so hes not interested

[annie24]

I thought it went good. He was shy at first but started talking more as the date went on. He didn't try anything though and somehow the conversation the next day got to where I said I thought he wasn't interested bc he didn't and he said he likes to take it slow which I said I didn't I like touching not sex but touching so idk if it was something I said or what.

 

who knows. Only time will tell. Hang in there and keep meeting others in the meantime.

[katrina1980]

Went out with this guy on Saturday and it went pretty well at the end of the night he said he would text me in the morning and see what I was doing next weekend. He texted the next day and we talked for a bit and then disappeared. He didn't text me on Monday, which he always texted me in the morning, so I texted him and we talked for a bit and I haven't heard from him since then. Idk what to do

 

What do you mean by saying he texted you in the morning but then disappeared? Define disappearing. The rest of the day? He didn't text Monday so you texted him? That okay I guess but the question is what did you say in your text? Something turned him off between your date and your text on Monday. Or maybe he thought more about the date and figured you weren't a match. Maybe he got back with an ex. It could be anything why do you care it's been one date.

[Wiseman2]

Stay with interests, fun, etc on first dates and keep texting light and brief in between.

 

Oops. That's not a good convo to have after one date 2017;6763433]He didn't try anything though and somehow the conversation the next day got to where I said I thought he wasn't interested bc he didn't

[katrina1980]

Stay with interests, fun, etc on first dates and keep texting light and brief in between.

 

Oops. That's not a good convo to have after one date

 

I agree, your text turned him off which is what I suspected.

[bri2017]

I mean it just slipped out bc he called me cute which he had never done before so I was like oh well that's good bc I was thinking you weren't interested for awhile there. I mean it was harmless but I guess that was bad to say. I'll just delete him from everything and be done with it

[SherrySher]

Unfortunately the first week or so of meeting someone really does show how serious or interested they are. If they are start/stop like this, it usually means that he is either a multi-dater or isn't sure about you.

I would definitely let it go. He could have texted you a hundred times by now,seeing as a text takes two seconds, if he was into you.

Hopefully the next one you meet will be more on your line of thinking.

[Dahl]

I mean it just slipped out bc he called me cute which he had never done before so I was like oh well that's good bc I was thinking you weren't interested for awhile there. I mean it was harmless but I guess that was bad to say. I'll just delete him from everything and be done with it

 

Sheesh, it sounds a bit petty if he got irked with you for sharing your honest reaction to a remark he made. I could have said this without thinking, easily, as well.

 

I agree that you should probably cut bait, regardless, and find a better fit.

 

Good luck.

[Batya33]

I mean it just slipped out bc he called me cute which he had never done before so I was like oh well that's good bc I was thinking you weren't interested for awhile there. I mean it was harmless but I guess that was bad to say. I'll just delete him from everything and be done with it

 

Yes, if someone compliments you just say thank you. Showing your insecurities like that that early on can give the wrong impression -it's oversharing, not about being "honest". I am not saying that is why he hasn't yet asked you out, just pointing it out.

 

As an aside, I don't think calling someone "cute" necessarily means interest in dating -he was complimenting your looks -so that might mean he found you attractive -not necessarily wanting to see you again on a date. Just say thank you. Or "thanks -you're cute, too!"