This guy I like

[susanca]

There's this guy that I have known for 16 years since middle school and we have been in different church groups together and recently I had some dreams about being with him romantically. I haven't had dreams like that about him until a month ago. Over the last seven months I have been involved in 2 different church groups with him where we see each other twice a week, and before that we hadn't seen each other in years since I went to his Baptist Church in high school. I'm starting to kind of have feelings for him which is weird to me because I have never felt that way about him before. But alot of the time he doesn't show much interest in talking to me and a lot of times says hi in a short tone or barely at all and hardly talks to me, whereas he talks a lot to the other girls. So I don't know if he likes me or what the deal is, why he acts like this towards me.

A couple nights ago I tried to say hi to him several times and all he did was glance at me and wave, didnt say hi back. And kept ignoring me, while he was talking to the other girls. And I overheard him making plans with a girl to go out and giving her his number! Omg and then he and a friend were talking and he mentioned this guy who hasnt been in awhile and so I asked where has he been why isnt he here tonight and he said you seem very interested in him, do you like him? I... said no, and he said is there anyone you like and I said yes, and he asked who, do I know him?. Um what? I didnt know what to say so I said maybe, and he said does he know you like him and I said I doubt it so he said you should tell him. Why would I do that when he doesnt even say hi and barely acknowledges me and makes plans to go out with another girl? And then when he was leaving I said bye and he said bye in a short tone and I said it was nice to see you, and he just looked down with a weirded out look on his face. why?

And then last night when I said hi ihe only said hello in a short tone and then immediately turned and started talking to these other girls, then sat down with an empty space next to him and when I walked up to him he gave me a weird look and then this other girl came over and he gestured to have her sit next to him. but not me. And then later another time I was sitting with an empty spot next to me and instead of sitting next to me he went over across the room and sat somewhere else. why?

[Wiseman2]

He was interested in you and you sort of blew him off. Have you red the book "He's Just Not That Into You"?

 

It will help you understand who is not interested and who acts interested. Basically if a guy is ignoring you are not friendly, he's not interested . If a guy goes out of his way to make conversation or flirts with you about crushes etc then he may be interested.

I asked where has he been why isnt he here tonight and he said you seem very interested in him, do you like him? I... said no, and he said is there anyone you like and I said yes, and he asked who, do I know him?. And then when he was leaving I said bye and he said bye in a short tone and I said it was nice to see you, and he just looked down with a weirded out look on his face. why?

[junebug123]

You've known him for 16 years and only recently have you taken an interest in him.

 

Why have you not been friends before that? It seems like you are very shy and do a lot of thinking about things which don't matter.

 

Thinking about whether someone sits next to you or not depends on their rapport with you. If you want to develop a good rapport with this guy, then start being nice to him. Find out what he's interested in and find out some things you guys have in common with each other.

 

Then you can approach him and be direct and talk to him about that stuff, rather than sulking and worrying why he isn't spending time with you.

 

People can generally tell when others are interested in them, but if you are shy and showing little to no interest then why would you except him to out of no where start being friends with you.

 

I can sort of understand where you are coming from because I am also in a group which has a lot of females, although it's not a church group. And being a male in that circle it's hard to give attention to everyone.

 

So I generally just spend time with the ones I feel close to, or make an effort to get close to me. The others in the group, I don't worry about them at all.