Hollsmaur Posted March 1, 2017 Share Posted March 1, 2017 So me and my boyfriend have been together 10 months and throughout that amount of time I've never been worried about our relationship until now. basically I have been offered more hours in my current job and so that means we don't see each over as much as we are both busy, but last week he told me that a new girl had started at his workplace and that they get on well like they've known each over for ages, and they've been texting on and off for a week. Now I'm not sure if I'm just paranoid or not, but my mind keeps on telling me that they are gonna gain feelings for each over in the long run and leave me hurt, or that she's going to try something with him or vise versa. It's happened to me before, where I'm convinced someone loves me and then they drop me like I never meant anything to them and I guess that's why I think the way I do. What doesn't help is that I have no clue what she's like or what they are saying to each over at work when I'm not around. I have read the text messages and it's just general chitchat but they keep asking each over what shift they are in like they want to see each over, and he missed work for two days and broke his phone so he hadn't seen her, but when his phone was fixed a message appeared from her saying "oi where are you?" And I hate her for it just because he's my boyfriend and she knows he is but is still messaging him asking where he is and what shift he's doing like she's really bothered, but then again that could just be me being paranoid again? Anyway my boyfriend said he wasn't going to message her again which he didn't when I seen him, but for all I know he could still be texting her, getting closer to her, all while I'm not around. I just don't know what to think. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hollyj Posted March 1, 2017 Share Posted March 1, 2017 Why don't you suggest you all hang out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melancholy123 Posted March 1, 2017 Share Posted March 1, 2017 I think you mean to say "other" but you keep typing "over." Yes suggest you all hang out and then maybe you can get an idea if there's something going on or not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Betterwithout Posted March 1, 2017 Share Posted March 1, 2017 Great suggestion Hollyj. If something IS going on, that hang out session will give you the answer because it will be awkward af Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dahl Posted March 1, 2017 Share Posted March 1, 2017 I agree with the others. Also consider your alternatives, here. Whatever she may or may not be inclined to take a run at, your boyfriend isn't going to do anything he doesn't want to do. If he has given you no reason to doubt or distrust him, serve you and him fairly by giving him the respect and credit he and your relationship deserves. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gary Snyder Posted March 1, 2017 Share Posted March 1, 2017 Why don't you suggest you all hang out. Holly is right. The first thing I do with my friends is introduce them to my girlfriend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted March 1, 2017 Share Posted March 1, 2017 Why is he going on about this to you? He sees her at work so the texts do not mean anything. last week he told me that a new girl had started at his workplace and that they get on well like they've known each over for ages, and they've been texting on and off for a week. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catfeeder Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 he told me that a new girl had started at his workplace and that they get on well like they've known each over for ages, and they've been texting on and off for a week. Sounds like a manipulative and hostile thing to say to you. It would make me question him less than my own choice of investment in him. I'd ask him why he told me that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spinderella Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 Wow, I feel like everyone in this thread is super open minded to suggest you all hang-out! Good for ya'll but I wouldn't be cool with this. Yes you can be friends with the opposite sex without ruining a relationship, but the frequency and tone of the interaction you're describing sounds like major flirting. You're in a tough spot because he hasn't done anything wrong, but you see it coming. I'd be interested to know how things led to him saying he wont text her anymore - what was the conversation like? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capttrae Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 I'm with the others, y'all should all go do something together. You'll know quick like if there's something between them. But keep one thing in mind, if he's yours there's nothing that she can do to mess it up. But, if you start being the insecure, untrusting girlfriend that snoops and questions everything trying to catch him doing something wrong when he's not, you will loose him. Eventually he'll get tired of it no matter how much he loves you. Nobody likes being given the third degree on a regular basis Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
electricorchid Posted March 3, 2017 Share Posted March 3, 2017 I would ask him why he felt the need to tell me. For the time being try not to overthink it; whose really meant for you will stay and whose not... things will unveil how theyre supposed to Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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