Caityhorsman Posted March 1, 2017 Share Posted March 1, 2017 I'm 18 years old pregnant and engaged. And my fiancé is a little bit crazy. Let me start from the beginning. We got into a relationship too soon, Exactly a month after I had just ended a 3 year long relationship with the person I thought I was going to marry. I don't consider him my rebound because I'd been with someone else prier to him but after the break up. But he made me really happy, and it was exciting and adventurous. I lived with my uncle by myself because my mom ran off with her bf across country. Which means I'm here with no one to talk, without a mom to give me advice, that's why I've turned to this page. Any who, it was all fine and dandy and I really thought I was falling in love with my current fiancé. His mom offered to let me move in with them so I could get some personal stuff down and have her as motivation, she's a really awesome woman, beats my mom by 10 fold. I said yes, because I still needed my ged and license and she was willing to help with that. So I moved in and things were good for a while. I started to realize little things about my fiancé that clearly weren't normal and had a touch of crazy. Let me give you this example. From the beginning, I've been fair, loyal, honest, and kind. He even recognizes this daily. BUT he still, almost everyday has come up with some master manipulated idea that I've cheated in him or will. He's afraid to leave me alone, and at one point was going through my phone, I put a stop to that though. We've been together for almost 6 months now, and there's still no change, he constantly assumes and accuses without any knowledge that's he's even doing it which is the scarier part. One time out of the blue, he flipped my phone face up if I put it face down out of habit. He did it twice before I got extremely enraged. His explanation was the that he looked it up online and the majority of people who do that are hiding something. I yelled and yelled until I was blue in the face, he physically couldn't underrated why that was crossing a boundary, that the under lining reason for that is he feels I'm untrustworthy, EVEN though he's the one who has lied to me in several different occasions. Okay moving on, here's another example, he has such a skewed perception on things, on life really and if I say something or do something he will think those words or actions were done for a totally different reason than they were, usually negative and like I was attacking him when really I was just complementing him or asking him a simple question. He doesn't get it and it drives me nuts. His social ques are absolutely shot as well. He so up and down all the time, one minute he's manically laughing, getting in my face like a child, then he's laying on the ground looking at the ceiling saying he wants to light himself on fire. EVERYTHING has to be turned into a joke for him and it kills me. The other night we were laying in bed and he told me he sees and hears things that aren't there, and it freaks him out. Sometimes it's really hard to tell when he's being serious about something because he tends to over exaggerate and be a little extreme most of the time. So sometimes I don't know when he is over exaggerating and fibbing. But I said believed him. I've been begging him to get help for the past month, for the sake of our relationship, for the sake of our marriage and our baby. I really want this to work and I want a future together, but I'm so terrified he won't get the help he needs. He talked to his therapist about it and he said he has schizoactive behaviors, and a touch of autism. He's going away for a week so they can better diagnose him but holy hell am I thinking the worst right now. Like what if he doesn't change? After months of putting in time and effort and having his baby, and waiting for him to get better and start acting like a normal person. I'm so frustrated and confused and I have no one to talk to about this and it's driving ME INSANE. I have absolutely no idea what I should do. Should I wait? So I stick around? I'm terrified I'm going to be a single mom with no support and no where to go. My uncle won't let me back in his house if I'm pregnant.. so I'm kind of stuck. And I'm absolutely terrified.. Link to comment
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