I love my girlfriend deeply but miss my ex everyday

[AzureOcean]

I was in college back in 2014 and met a wonderful woman. She was attractive, fun, adventurous and really turned me on. We had sex on the first date and it just felt so...right. We connected in the best of ways emotionally and sexually and had really great chemistry. She had mental health problems though. She was a larger woman who had a lot of hate for how she looked and wanted to get ride of it, saying how could I love her like that. We got in arguments about it and even though I told her she was beautiful she didn't believe me. She had bad depression and self hate but I still loved her regardless

 

I moved down to another province to work for the summer but ended up loving the work and staying, wanting her to come with me. But she had to stay home and couldn't just up and move without having any idea what she'd do. We tried long distance and it didn't work. I wanted to hold her and see her and her I thought about the mental problems and I wasn't sure what to do or how to handle it. We broke up. I was devastated for the longest time but managed to move on and date here and there.

 

I met a really amazing woman and we've been going out for over a year now. She has a great handle on life, a great career and a level head. She's really perfect in every sense of the word and we're more compatible that I'd thought I could be with someone. I love her with all my heart and can see a future together but...I still miss my ex. My ex and I actually started talking a bit and she says she misses me all the time. I'm...still in love with my ex and constantly think about her but I love my current girlfriend so deeply too. All I think about is my ex and then that makes me feel guilty about my current girlfriend. I have no idea what to do

[Wiseman2]

All you need to do is reframe this as a chapter in your life with fond memories and nostalgia. It didn't work on many levels and you realize that.

 

Don't blow it with your current gf by staying in touch with and ex with "missing you' texts etc. Focus on your current relationship completely.

 

Is something missing from the current situation? Drama? Intensity? Try to reflect and ponder those things.

[johnnydanger]

You are a good man. The fact your ex says she misses you shows she is honest at least. It's a very hard situation for you, but do try not to cross a line where you would be "cheating" on your current gf.