Alone

[ch3rryma3]

I moved to melbourne 3 years ago and I met my now ex 1 month into living here. I tried to make friends but I find it really difficult to connect with people. My ex became my world and my only outlet to social interactions. I was friendly with his friends but I never really made any friends of my own. 2 weeks ago, after valentine day he broke off our 3 year relationship. I was and still am devastated. I have no one to talk to. I still see him every now and then as we want to stay friends. But looking at him, I see how fast he has already moved on. He is always busy and going to events with his friends. Until recently I felt like maybe we would still work it out, but now I am sure this is what he truly wants. I am still in love with him and being alone makes it even harder to go on with my life. This was my first serious relationship and he was my first love and my first heartbreak. I just have no idea what to do. I'm so alone and in so much pain.

[gebaird]

I realize this would be a big change, but can you go back to where you are from? Do you have family support there?

[ch3rryma3]

I realize this would be a big change, but can you go back to where you are from? Do you have family support there?

 

I'm still finishing my degree in melbourne and, honestly, I love melbourne, and want to continue living here if I can.

 

My family is awesome but I can't really talk to my mum about what I'm going through. Because you can imagine how much stress that would put on her especially cause she is so far away.

[No1]

You are not alone.. and youll be okay.

 

Funny thing about life. When you are with someone, you are happy and thats when people want to talk to you. When you are single and desparate, no one wants to talk to you because you give out a vibe that reeks of desparation.

 

I think you are pressing too much and worried about making friends that people sense that and are not receptive. Dont try too hard to make friends. I would say focus on yourself. That alone should be enough to keep you busy. You live in a beautiful city, go out and spoil yourself. Do what you want to do that makes you happy. Be that happy person that attracted your X in the first place. Go out and find that person.. then when you are happy, people will come to you and want to be your friend.

 

Relax.. everything is going to be alright.