My Date From Hell!

[limichelle]

So I had a good first two dates with that guy in a previous post he even came over to my house after the second date and all was fine. Then he started to get weird and was just a plain jerk! He screamed at me in the movie theatre on our third date because I hadn't ordered the tickets in advance and I was treating him to the show! No thank you,and at the concession stand when the employee told him to have a nice day he said bitterly "We'll see!".

 

So after that date I told him it's not going to work and I wished him well.

 

He is now stalking me online to the point I blocked him on Facebook, email, and changed my phone number because I have no block on my cell phone it's crappy like that.

 

His messages on email are condescending where he starts out sorry then says I would have put up with you, you know.

 

Well this is where he crossed a line

 

After hearing no response he didn't take the hint and showed up at my house. I wasn't home but my dad was. My dad told him to get lost.

 

He then sent me another email from a different email address since he knew he was probably blocked.

 

He said bye and then ended it with I still know it takes me twenty minutes to get to your house!

 

I shuddered at that.

 

I deleted my email account and got a new one.

 

I'm posting this as a warning!

 

Next time I'll know better then to invite them to my house right away.

 

When you first start dating someone always meet in a public place and have your own transportation the first couple of times or more until you feel comfortable.

 

You never know they may seem nice but then turn into a nightmare.

 

I feel scared to even be home or come home to find him there!!!

 

I know I will call the police if he comes by.

 

I swear this is something out of an Investigation Discovery Show!

 

Yikes!

 

Lisa

[Twinflamer]

Oh, wow! It does sound like the plot to a horror flick! Good on you for blocking him and changing all your info. What did you think when you found out he came by your house? Good thing your Dad was there & told him to get lost. Could you imagine, if you lived alone?Hopefully, at least, with your dad there, psycho guy, will think twice about just showing up-whenever he feels like it.

Also, Good advice about not taking them to your home too soon & using your own transportation.

[Hollyj]

I hope you are saving these messages?

 

If he reaches out again, tell him you will contact the police. If he continues after that, get a restraining order.

[limichelle]

Hi,

 

Yeah I forwarded his messages to my new email. So I can save them and show the police which I hope doesn't come to it.

 

It is a good thing my dad was there.

 

Lisa

[angrythoughts]

That's insane. Sounds like he had a mental illness of some sort.

[Batya33]

So sorry this happened!

[IAmFCA]

Oh my goodness. Awful. I've been stalked before. It is distracting and uncomfortable and you are not alone in having to deal with it, if that helps. So sorry. Ick.

[Seraphim]

Wow! That sounds totally messed up. Glad you got away!

[Wiseman2]

Oh wow. So sorry that happened. You and your family did all the right things. Sounds like a loose cannon that blew. seems he put on a good act on the first 2 dates. Ask your dad to call the local precinct for advice, should this weirdo try anything again.

[Hollyj]

Hi,

 

Yeah I forwarded his messages to my new email. So I can save them and show the police which I hope doesn't come to it.

 

It is a good thing my dad was there.

 

Lisa

 

Yes. There are a lot of weirdos out there.

[Matt3939]

I agree with everything you wrote. Same goes for guys. Both genders can go off the deep end.

[Wiseman2]

Does he have a criminal record?

His messages on email are condescending where he starts out sorry then says I would have put up with you, you know.

He said bye and then ended it with I still know it takes me twenty minutes to get to your house!

[RainyCoast]

jeezums christ. i'm so relieved you live with your parents. please be careful. i hope he doesn't know where you work and the places you frequent. my hair stood up and all.

[Gary Snyder]

Those stalkers can be trouble! That's putting it mildly.

[limichelle]

Thanks guys for your response!

 

No criminal record but I think he suffers from narcissistic personality disorder by the way he was. He was very into thinking only the way he sees things is how it should be. He built himself up quite a bit. The last part saying where it only takes him 20 minutes to get to my house I don't know if that was a threat? I just know he shows up again I will tell him I'll call the police.

 

Luckily he only knows my house address nothing else.

 

I just feel uncomfortable and I hate how obsessed he got!

 

What scares me is his mindset thinking I rejected him because I'm scared my mental illness will get in the way. I never once said that, he jumped to that conclusion himself in the various emails. I just worry in his warped mind that he thinks he has to convince me otherwise!

 

This is going to be tense for awhile I think until I know he is gone for good.

[RainyCoast]

crazy-making you. textbook psycho.

[reinventmyself]

Wow. . shudder to think what would have happened had your dad not been there!

I try not to be jaded and cynical but certainly the internet exposes you to more creeps than not.

Be careful!

[boltnrun]

This is an unfortunate situation, but it clearly illustrates why it's important to not get all excited after one good date.

 

I remember you wrote that you wanted this man as your new boyfriend and that you two had already decided that after a few dates you'd be in a relationship. And, again, that was after one or two good dates.

 

It's better to take some time and really get to know someone before you allow yourself to start imagining a future with them.

 

I'm glad you're physically safe.

[Ms Darcy]

Please ladies, do not have a man pick you up or drop you off at home until you really get to know him after a while.

 

Sorry about your experience Limi.

[Zippy2000]

My word! You learned the hard way. Never bring back someone back on a second date. Some people do this on the first date.

 

Ive said countless time on here. The strangers you dont know are ALWAYS are on their best behaviour. They want to win your trust. How to do think Ted Bundy murdered his victims. Do a internet search on Ted Bundy and other serial killers. They are often ordinary looking, they ay the right thinsg and do most things to please you but they had psychopathic tendencies which you gave example on.

 

Im glad you learned your lesson but some women take strangers back on their first date. They only thing is the men dont have sex on their mind enjoy killing.