Does my ex want me back?

[jd619]

I broke up with my ex back in November, and a couple days after the breakup I found out that he immediately went on dating sites looking for someone else. We were together for a year and a half. He went a little crazy after the breakup, he went out drinking, got wasted and hooked up with girls he met at bars every week which is very unlike him. After about a month after the breakup (December 2016), he started to chat me again over text and we were meeting up regularly to hang out. We even hooked up a couple times, and he would take me out for dinner every so often. Things were going good those couple months and I was thinking about giving him another chance. Soon I found out while he was doing that, he was also going on dates with this other girl who he met online. I told him that he had to make a decision; that it was me or her, and he couldn't see us both.

 

In the end he decided to choose her, because he didn't want to go back into a relationship that caused him so much stress. He made that decision a couple weeks ago, and for the past couple days he has been texting me asking how I am doing, sending me pictures of old love letters I wrote him, and he is jealous that I am seeing someone else. Very late last night he texted me that he is sad and knows that his new gf cares for him, but he doesn't feel the same emotion for her and he still aches for me. But then he said it is still too early to tell in their relationship if he will have feelings for her. He went on to say that the emotional connection between us was unreal, and he can't get over that. He has been texting me every day telling me that he doesn't forget me as well. I responded saying that he should stop and this isn't fair to his new gf. Today, he sent me a text asking if I would like to hang out with him this weekend, and tried to make more conversation.

 

I don't understand why he is doing this. He made his decision, and shouldn't be doing this if he has a new girlfriend. Should I completely cut off all contact with him? I don't know if I would take him back, after he chose someone else over me. Is he in a rebound relationship?

[Wiseman2]

Unfortunately it doesn't sound like reconciling but more like he's playing the field enjoying his freedom. It may be best to go no contact and block him to avoid these confusing messages and instead focus on your new guy.

[Clio]

Cut him off. He is an insecure selfish idiot who is trying to string you along in case things don't work out with his new girlfriend. Or maybe he is trying to keep you around both. It is your job to set boundaries so as not to get hurt. Enabling his behaviour will only prolong his wishy washiness and demonstrate that you are ok being second. His behaviour should tell you that he doesn't deserve to be taken back as he doesn't appreciate nor respect you.