Merthur30 Posted February 28, 2017 Share Posted February 28, 2017 I recently had a falling out with a good friend whom I just started to date. Things were going good until she started ignoring my texts and calls, which weren't many. Maybe just a casual text or call to see if she wanted to go out and do something that day. After about 4 days of texting or calling once or twice a day and getting no response, I knew something was wrong. One day, I texted her to ask if she wanted to go see a new movie that we both would want to see, and she said "I'm going to see that movie this Saturday with my friend Paul." I was admittingly a little upset that she already made plans with someone else but thought nothing of it. A few days later I asked her if she had her 4 year old daughter for the weekend and she said no. I excitedly asked if she wanted to go see a concert, and she said that she had already made plans to hang out with her friend Paul again. Red flag I thought. I then acting like it didn't bother me even though inside it really did ask if she was free ahead of time, before her supposed friend could make plans with her again. She said that she was busy the first day that she had off from work and has her daughter the next. I then texted that maybe me her and her daughter could go to breakfast or something and no response. Keep in mind that she and her daughter would come over to my house or we would go play at the park sometimes, so she does trust me around her little girl. So anyway, I let the matter alone for about 3 days and texted her that I understand that you are a busy working mom and when the next time she was free to let me know. A couple hours later, she texted back saying that "I didn't want to hurt you, but I'm seeing someone else right now." With the bomb dropped, I responded in a few angry texts. Nothing too bad but things like it hurts more that you waited to tell me and I would never date someone else while I was dating you. We were not boyfriend and girlfriend yet, but have kissed each other on the lips on more than one occassion and were getting there. I immediately thought of her friend and connected the dots that he was the other man she was seeing. I De-friended her from my Facebook for a few days before sending a friend request back that has for a day now gone unanswered by her. Now, I'm waiting for about 2 weeks with no contact to see if she reaches out. If not then I will reach out to her just to see if she wants to be friends again. We have been friends for almost 7 years and I don't want to lose her. I also want to know of a way to get her back relationship wise. If she is happy with the guy she is seeing or if he was just a fling. She already knows that I love her and care for her, yet she has yet to say it to me maybe because she isn't sure yet or only sees me as her good friend and not a boyfriend. How can I get her back as a friend much less find out if she has any romantic feelings for me? Link to comment
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