Two months post breakup overwhelmingly sad

[Shegottaberigh]

My ex told me has was confused by another girl who he had been romantically involved but not formally two years before our relationship. She liked him and that sparked his interest so he got "confused". Anyhow, it was an long distance relationship but this time he came home to my country and this girl who also lived in another country came here too (we used to all be high school classmates).

 

I decided to break it up because he'd been seeing her behind my back once she came back home. It broke my heart because he'd been reassuring me for two years that he had no feelings for her and that he had chosen me etc this has even caused heated fights in the past. He confessed he was confused by her and had been seeing her behind my back. He went out with me one day and the next one with her. It was my first breakup I'd been with him since 18-20 years old. Two years. The first month was awful I honestly thought I was going to die from the pain. He went back to the country he's living in to keep on with his college studies,

 

Then it got better. I checked his Facebook profile and he had pictures with the girl I mentioned on her house shortly before he left.( They're not together- they just play this game where they like each other but once they try something it just doesn't last a week) and with other girls at college at parties. Mind you, he's an introvert and one of the nicest guys out there so it's pretty shocking these are his actions post breakup. I I friended him but it's been a month since I saw that and I feel so sad an overwhelmed all the time. I'm suffering here while he's partying and beyond over me. I'm so sad. So angry, the overthinking doesn't stop. I can't focus. I am sad all the freaking time. The flashabacks of him telling me"I'll do anything for you and you deserve someone who loves you entirely that's just not me" hurt me so bad. I just can't function when the flashbacks cruelly snap in my face.

Two months and I still feel so bad. What can I do ?

[gebaird]

Two months is just the beginning. It's normal to still be struggling at this stage.

 

The guy's an a-hole. Seriously, he was feeding you crap lines. He got bored and wanted to sew his oats. A jacka$$ like this makes my entire gender look bad. He got one thing right, though: you do deserve someone who loves you entirely.

 

Hearts take time to heal; you won't feel this way forever. When you experience a loss like this, you move through the stages of grief. The upward turn will come. In the meantime, please know that you are worthy of love. One idiot casting you aside does not make you unwanted or unlovable. It's just an opportunity to find someone who will love you right.

 

Hugs.

[angrythoughts]

Don't check his page anymore. It helps the healing process. Outta sight outta mind... eventually.