First love?

[mcnn4]

The other day I was talking to my friend about first loves. Sometimes I find it hard to pinpoint who my first love was.

 

I sometimes think it's my first crush from when I was 14. I crushed on him from when I was 14 up until I was 17 and then we hooked up when I was 18. We never had a relationship. We just hooked up because he didn't want to have a relationship with me. But for me, I am almost certain that I was in love with him. Did I truly love him? That I'm not sure. But even 3 years and 2 relationships later, I still check up on him on social media and care about what he thinks of me. I know for sure he didn't love me. But I feel like I was definitely in love with him.

 

My most recent ex-boyfriend was someone I truly loved deeply. He also loved me back the same way. We were in a relationship for 10 months. He broke up with me because he no longer saw me in his future and does not want a relationship because there are things he wants to achieve on his own. This break up hurt a lot more than the other men in my life that have broken my heart. Before him, I had never experienced love that was reciprocated before. It was the first time that someone loved me just as much as I loved them. And I definitely feel like I loved him and he did at one point love me the same. We both go to the same university so we are both very young.

 

Sometimes I just don't know what counts as love and what doesn't? Just wanted to open up a thread to talk about that.

[Dahl]

The other day I was talking to my friend about first loves. Sometimes I find it hard to pinpoint who my first love was.

 

I sometimes think it's my first crush from when I was 14. I crushed on him from when I was 14 up until I was 17 and then we hooked up when I was 18. We never had a relationship. We just hooked up because he didn't want to have a relationship with me. But for me, I am almost certain that I was in love with him. Did I truly love him? That I'm not sure. But even 3 years and 2 relationships later, I still check up on him on social media and care about what he thinks of me. I know for sure he didn't love me. But I feel like I was definitely in love with him.

 

My most recent ex-boyfriend was someone I truly loved deeply. He also loved me back the same way. We were in a relationship for 10 months. He broke up with me because he no longer saw me in his future and does not want a relationship because there are things he wants to achieve on his own. This break up hurt a lot more than the other men in my life that have broken my heart. Before him, I had never experienced love that was reciprocated before. It was the first time that someone loved me just as much as I loved them. And I definitely feel like I loved him and he did at one point love me the same. We both go to the same university so we are both very young.

 

Sometimes I just don't know what counts as love and what doesn't? Just wanted to open up a thread to talk about that.

 

Not to add to your task in sorting these ideas, but I would offer this as an alternative to consider in viewing past relationships in distinct polarities -

 

I've found in my life that what very much constitutes love at a particular stage in your existence may not fit the same parameters in another.

 

What felt like love to you as a teenager may not qualify based on your world view now, but personally, I don't know that it loses anything retroactively.

 

Hope this helps and doesn't wind up just adding to the internal debate.

 

Cheers.

[Wiseman2]

There's different types and stages of love. There's puppy love, your first crush, your first real relationship, then more serious relationships like marriage then there's a romantic plus family type of love then there's growing old together type of thing. Each has it's own place and it's own meaning in life.

[Kabazata]

Usually, you remember your first love all your life. It's not good or bad, it's just an experience.