Need advice

[Monica2020]

Hi

After 18 months relation boy friend is ignoring me .! He has been having problem I know and I have been supporting him all the way through , but it's nearly 3 weeks now that he has gone really cold , thou he been calling me every day but really short and coming up with him being very busy and down , till Friday night when he had txt me saying he miss his mother which he has lost when 10 years old ,when I saw the txt I replayed a nice supportive txt didn't reply .Saturday he was suppose to stay the night at mine , a few hours before coming h rang and said he doesn't feel ok to turn up but because I will get upset he will come over for dinner but won't stay , when he turned up he started playing with the dog but no eye contact with me and after dinner I just asked nicely if I could help and if he wants to talk , when he suddenly start talking loud and arguing that I always want to talk stuff when it's not the right time specially when his under pressure .. I tried to calm him and talk but he told me doesn't want to hear another word and left . When he left I was very upset so I rang his brother and explained every thing ( I know I shouldn't have ) but had no choice , was really down . The next day send him a txt that am really heart broken and he shouldn't of act like that .. no reply ., and his brother was suppose to stay in touch but hasn't .. it's 3 days now .. is that normal ..!?

what am I suppose to do.. !? Just wait for him to get in touch or shall I ring him ..!?

Does it mean he doesn't love me any more and want to break up ..!?

[Wiseman2]

What was the argument about?

when he turned up he started playing with the dog but no eye contact with me and after dinner I just asked nicely if I could help and if he wants to talk , when he suddenly start talking loud and arguing that I always want to talk stuff when it's not the right time specially when his under pressure

[Monica2020]

I said why didn't you ring me last night and why he doesn't want to talk about what is bothering him , he said if he knew he would of solved it himself , but to me every one know what is upsetting them ..!!

And then he start arguing that I always use the bad time to talk and said doesn't want to continue the conversation any more .. which to be honest there was none

Then said needs to go home and be alone I said don't go let's talk this through but didn't listen and left ..

[Wiseman2]

Try to allow people to reflect quietly and be ready to share and articulate their thoughts when they are ready. Squeezing stuff out of someone makes them feel pressured.

 

Just relax and when the time for talking comes do it in a relaxed manner during a walk, for example, when you are both calm, unhurried and ready to express thoughts naturally and freely.

[Monica2020]

Try to allow people to reflect quietly and be ready to share and articulate their thoughts when they are ready. Squeezing stuff out of someone makes them feel pressured.

 

Just relax and when the time for talking comes do it in a relaxed manner during a walk, for example, when you are both calm, unhurried and ready to express thoughts naturally and freely.

Am so confused , is this a beak up or no his just upset and wants some space as it's 4 days now and he hasn't been in touch ..

I don't mind if he needs space but if something else don't I need to know ...

thank you for replying .