Betterwithout Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 I'd be interested in your opinions about disagreements in a LTR/marriage, ie: frequency, how much is too much? What if you rarely argue, does it mean words are being left unsaid? If a couple doesn't argue- does that mean a stronger compatibility? Or does it mean if a couple argues often that they are communicating in an open and honest and healthy way, without suppressing real emotions..leading to further built up resentment) A little background... In past relationships, we rarely argued (once every 4/5 months). In my current relationship, we have disagreements about once a month, and it's always over trivial stuff. We communicate very well, but we're both sensitive and sometimes the feathers get ruffled (we both hate being in the wrong) so our arguments almost always go like this, using a simple very trivial example: Spouse 1: "If you would just put the glass in the dishwasher, it wouldn't have gotten knocked over and broken in the first place" Spouse 2: "Ya, but just last week, you broke a plate" Spouse 1: "Ya, but you broke my favourite glass!" Spouse 2: "Well, it's not like I wanted to break it" Spouse 1: "I wish you could just be more considerate to me" Spouse 2: "It's just a glass! ... " this continues for an hour (one walking away hoping to move on from the conversation, another getting quiet and recluse) Sometimes we wonder if the argument isn't really about the broken glass, but about a much deeper issue. Either way, we make up, and things are good afterwards. We both rationalize later that we are happy we argue about trivial things rather than larger issues. So read my first paragraph again and I'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences. Link to comment
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