P33 Posted February 27, 2017 Posted February 27, 2017 I posted about a relationship with a woman in which we'd had sex 2 days ago who had trauma due to her awful childhood but that we had built up trust together. ('where on earth do I go from here'). in it I mentioned another guy who was interested in her but that it wasn't a physical relationship. I've left her alone for the past 2 days, although we work in the same place she's been off. I decided to contact her today to see how she was doing, I texted her and got no answer then decided to give her a ring. Again no answer then 10 minutes later she texted 'I'm with him can't talk X'. Firstly why would you put kisses on something like this. I am absolutely gobsmacked by it especially as it sounds like something that would happen to a teenager. I can't help thinking this entire scenario was planned in advance to either use me as a weapon in some kind of battle, or just to hurt me as much as possible. I've not heard from her since (this was a few hours ago) but would imagine if she cared at all would contact me, otherwise she doesn't give a damn. Problem being I will see her tomorrow (although she is avoidable indefinitely). I am almost tempted to know what's going on but am more of a cut her off type of guy. This has really hurt my feelings as we were literally in bed just the other night. I'm pretty sure she's totally honest about her sexual relations (nothing for 2 years) due to some personal issues but we also had unprotected sex. Despite being an adult this has rocked me to my core. The only light is that I'm on anti depressants which have softened the blow otherwise it could be catastrophic. Thoughts?
Wiseman2 Posted February 27, 2017 Posted February 27, 2017 Who is "him"?she texted 'I'm with him can't talk X'.
P33 Posted February 27, 2017 Author Posted February 27, 2017 I've omitted his name but its 'the other guy'
Hollyj Posted February 27, 2017 Posted February 27, 2017 Why are you having unprotected sex????????? Are looking to get an STD, or become a father? Shaking head!
Wiseman2 Posted February 27, 2017 Posted February 27, 2017 Does she have a bf?I've omitted his name but its 'the other guy'
Matt3939 Posted February 27, 2017 Posted February 27, 2017 Hay it could be worse she could be pregnant and the other guy could be raising your kid. She's with another guy let this go.
MissCanuck Posted February 27, 2017 Posted February 27, 2017 This is why I cautioned you in your other thread that she's not emotionally ready to be in a relationship with you. You need to start heeding the red flags waving here, OP. Trauma or not, she isn't able to fulfill your expectations and desires right now. For your own sanity, you need to stop trying to make it happen with her.
HeartGoesOn Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 Apparently she's already with another guy, and given the fact you're having unprotected sex with her, you're literally playing a game of Russian Roulette. I have to ask, is the sex worth the potential price you may have to pay?
Capricorn3 Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 we also had unprotected sex Thoughts? Reality check. Are you prepared for paying child maintenance for the next 18 years?
catfeeder Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 It makes no sense to sleep with anyone to whom you need to play therapist. You've found out why.
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