Relationship anxiety..

[Kaykayxo]

I suffer on and off from anxiety. Lately I have been having a bad bout, the student house I am living in has contributed. It is messy and I don't get along with the other people who are disrespectful so it has taken a toll on me. Combined with the fact that I am in a long distance relationship I have just felt extra helpless and sad this week. It also causes me to start spazzing on my bf. I have been better at controlling my moods but this week I became clingy, one day was ringing him multiple times and I know he was just annoyed because he does not like when I become like that and I did it two times in a row. I phoned him on Friday and we spoke for about an hour..wasn't good wasn't bad. He did not phone me yesterday but I was away at my parents so I didn't care, however he also hasn't phoned me today. Once and awhile we will go a day without talking if we both know eachother is busy. I know he works on weekends but I also feel like he is becoming distant and it is giving me crippling anxiety. I feel short of breath, nauseous and worried even though I was away with my family all weekend. I just feel so upset even though nothing really has been said yet. I don't know how to cope. I also don't think it is a good idea I phone him right now because I may be clingy for no reason and he is the type who does better when I give him a bit of space from that. I feel like it is better to try to calm myself down and stop worrying so much but how

[Dahl]

If it helps at all, I just found something I thought was dead bang brilliant in my relentless search for sleep tips and tricks.

 

Google the 4 7 8 breathing method and see what you think. Though I'm looking for significant insomnia relief, I read in several articles that many people with serious anxiety concerns use the above breathing technique to calm themselves, whenever it may serve.

 

Good luck.

[catfeeder]

What steps can you take to resolve or improve your living situation? When you place your focus on solving problems instead of ruminating, you shift your emotional driver to a useful and rational one.

 

Whenever you encounter an upsetting situation at home, stop your impulses and change your approach. Place your focus on what you can DO instead of how you feel, and change the language of the critical voice you run inside your own head--away from interpreting the behaviors of others and toward your responses making your situation tolerable until you find another place to live.

 

When we respond to problems instead of react to them, we gain self control. Remind yourself that this is temporary, and reward yourself in some way every time you overcome the kind of 'downward spiral' thinking that only digs you a deeper hole to climb out of.

 

Make everything less about 'others' and more about how well you can handle things you don't 'like'. That puts you in control of your own thinking and behavior, which builds pride and self sufficiency instead of flooding you with an inner tantrum that comes out sideways all over the people in your life who can do nothing about it FOR you.

 

Head high, focus on the Self, and allow BF to reach out when he's ready. He'll either get past your earlier negativity, or he won't. If so, he'll see a change in your attitude and coping skills, and if not, you'll have learned an important lesson about dumping on people--it doesn't solve anything, and it creates its own set of problems.

[Wiseman2]

Seek out counseling through your campus and discus the anxiety as well has housing issues. Don't use the bf as a crutch and not get to the root cause of the problems.

the student house I am living in has contributed. It is messy and I don't get along with the other people who are disrespectful so it has taken a toll on me. It also causes me to start spazzing on my bf. I was away at my parents so I didn't care