Lotusavx Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 The guy I am exclusively seeing, which we both agreed on, is suddenly not talking to me. We have had great dates and really feel comfortable around each other. We haven't had sex yet. In the past few weeks we would text throughout the day, he would text good morning, etc. But after a great date the other day - which ended well and nothing seemed weird - he has stopped talking to me. I texted him to see how he was doing but I am getting very short and annoyed sounding answers. It was his idea to be exclusive and I agreed. When we have hung out, he has been telling me how much he likes me and wants to "keep me". I understand people go through stress or situations which make them withdraw, but I am really confused. I texted him something only to see that it has been seen by him, but no response for hours. Should I ask him what's going on with him and I or if I said/did something he didn't like? Or should I just give him space and let him come to me? I really don't like being in limbo and not knowing what's going on, if he found someone else or decided against wanting to see me/be exclusive. I'd rather him just be honest with me and tell me instead of pulling away and making me wonder what's going on - so I am wondering if there is any way I can ask him if it's over without sounding insecure?
JaggerJim Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 Is this the 2 dates guy? (Exclusive after only 2 dates). Well now do you see why everyone thought it was silly?
ThatwasThen Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 How did you meet him and how many "dates" have you been on with him? How many dates had you gone on before he asked you to be exclusive?
gebaird Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 I'd give him space for now. Monday or Tuesday you could send him a, "Hey, just checking in! How are you doing?" text. If you don't get a response, assume he's gone AWOL for his own reasons (and not because of you).
boltnrun Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 You've only been "exclusive" for about 10 days or so, IIRC. And that was decided after only two dates, correct? I am always wary of someone who promises too much too soon. Those types usually disappear as quickly as they appear. Because it's false; no way can you know after two dates that you want a relationship with someone. So now you're getting to know more about the way he operates. Can you deal with someone who runs hot and cold and who appears, disappears and (possibly) reappears?
angrythoughts Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 Because you guys have only been involved for so long is just leave the questions for the mind to wonder. I wouldn't ask him. If you feel as though you're annoying him now those questions might be of further annoyance. Wait to see what happens but for now play it cool 😎.
Hollyj Posted February 27, 2017 Posted February 27, 2017 This is off. You guys need to slow your roll. Don't you think it was strange that he wanted to be exclusive after two dates? Red flag time!
Nikego Posted February 27, 2017 Posted February 27, 2017 Two dates is fine to be exclusive. Im almost 30 and wish someone would ask to marry me already!
boltnrun Posted February 27, 2017 Posted February 27, 2017 Two dates is fine to be exclusive. Im almost 30 and wish someone would ask to marry me already! See, that's a dangerous mindset. It can lead to some very bad relationships. If you just want someone, anyone, to marry you, you aren't going to be very selective. And one should be VERY selective when deciding who to spend the rest of their life with. If you're only 29, you've got tons of time! OP, how many dates total have you two gone on?
Sportster2005 Posted February 27, 2017 Posted February 27, 2017 Don't remain in limbo. Take the initiative and end this. Why isn't important, what's important is he's cowardly blowing you off.
Lotusavx Posted February 27, 2017 Author Posted February 27, 2017 update: he is still texting me occasionally, but not making plans or going into any further conversation. i have a feeling now that because he is texting me sporadically that it has nothing to do with me and it's his way of saying he's still around but just needs space.. anyone agree??
Wiseman2 Posted February 27, 2017 Posted February 27, 2017 How long have you been dating? What do you mean stopped talking? Try not to be clingy with repeated texting and timing response times. No you don't have "relationship talks" with someone after a few dates because he's not responding to multiple texts asap or in a lovey-dovey way. Try to chill and wait for him to initiate contact. Stop texting. The guy I am exclusively seeing, which we both agreed on, is suddenly not talking to me. I texted him to see how he was doing but I am getting very short and annoyed sounding answers. I texted him something only to see that it has been seen by him, but no response for hours.
katrina1980 Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 update: he is still texting me occasionally, but not making plans or going into any further conversation. i have a feeling now that because he is texting me sporadically that it has nothing to do with me and it's his way of saying he's still around but just needs space.. anyone agree?? Is there any particular reason why you can't initiate a date this time? Or do you always expect the man to initiate?
Lotusavx Posted February 28, 2017 Author Posted February 28, 2017 we have hungout about 6 times. he called me and told me he has been sick.
boltnrun Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 Does "hungout" mean dates? Or do you two just "hang out" at your place or at his place?
Wiseman2 Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 Ok, good, so don't panic let things unfold in a confident manner.we have hungout about 6 times. he called me and told me he has been sick.
PICCOLLO Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 Sounds like you guys have put the cart before the horse and now the horse is wandering off. Might be time to confront him and take charge here. Exclusive after two dates? On the rocks after hanging out six times? None of this indicates a rosey future.
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