I don't want to loose hope at my age.

[rtyu4567]

Im have moments when i fear growing old alone and not meeting someone special to share my life and companion ship.

Dating can be challenging enough and probably more at the age of 47. Though, I am not ready for a relationship at this time, I will be in the near future. Still im a little scared that there is less opportunity and options at my age. And the thought of settling just for the sake of having a mate is not something i would do. I believe in love, chemistry and genuine friendship. And i want that again someday. I dont want to loose hope.

Words of encouragement and positive experiences welcomed.

 

Thanks!

[Matt3939]

I find myself having the same fears. Specialy as I grow older. Then you realize how fast things can change. Last Thursday I started chatting with a woman. It went extremely well. I'd never date someone that isn't in my home state. But it was really nice to know that someone can be into you. It broke up the day after day grind. Gives a bit of hope when I start dating.

[Jeffbobo]

I'm 47 as well. And I agree that finding someone at this age can be difficult. It's not so much finding someone because in the six years that I've been dating, I've met a lot of women. That being said, I've been picky with who I meet because like you, I'm looking for those three key ingredients that you mention (chemistry, love and genuine friendship). Those 3 key ingredients are hard to come by at any age, I just think when you're younger, you're more apt to look past certain ingredients because one of them stands out more than the others

 

Briefly looking at your previous posts, you're still roughly six months out of your last relationship which appeared to go pretty rough for you. You mentioned not wanting to settle and when I hear that, I think one of two things. What I've found is that either people say that when 1) They are holding a measuring stick up to their previous relationship; comparing you to the person that broke up with them or 2) They are perfectly content with their own life and don't care one way or the other if love happens. If by chance it does, then awesome. Make sure that you've closed the door on your past relationship so that you're not going into a potential future relationship with #1 but that you're in position #2 mentioned above. You should be excited about what your future holds and the potential that you'll find someone that's a good fit. And in the meantime, enjoy meeting new people. It should be a fun and exciting time.

[Sportster2005]

Im have moments when i fear growing old alone and not meeting someone special to share my life and companion ship.

Dating can be challenging enough and probably more at the age of 47. Though, I am not ready for a relationship at this time, I will be in the near future. Still im a little scared that there is less opportunity and options at my age. And the thought of settling just for the sake of having a mate is not something i would do. I believe in love, chemistry and genuine friendship. And i want that again someday. I dont want to loose hope.

Words of encouragement and positive experiences welcomed.

 

Thanks!

 

I don't fear it all. On the contrary I see a definite upside. I would like a partner, but frankly most days I don't think it's worth the fuss. You don't need a lover to avoid being alone.

 

Your options depend on gender and where you live. Where I live, I have many options.

[Cathy7]

Try to embrace it without fear. I know how difficult it is but somehow it is always the fear of something that makes us paralyzed. I believe that love and finding a mate should be a liberating, opening up experience, something that will make us better and whole, in a sense. It cannot feel like something restricting you and bringing you down. Otherwise it's not this feeling that we are talking about. And you are right that it should embrace friendship and the special communion of minds. Try to think about your life like of a legend or something planned. It is important to liberate yourself from society's expectations about age, relationship and everything. They different for each individual. Also, you age nowodays means a totally different thing then in the past is head of you. Please also remember that we are this age that we feel.

[IAmFCA]

A family friend recently married. He is early 90s. She is younger by a couple of years only. They met on line. Look like teens with their grinning faces.

 

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I am 51. The fear is normal. Face it. Play it out. So what- so you live your life and look back and discover you didnt have a consistent life partner.

 

Or, you look at your partner and think, would you leave me alons so I can die in peace?

 

Which do you prefer?

 

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Live each day pursuing your interests. Keep growing, using your body and your mind for activities. Trust that what you arendoung every day is leading you where you want to go. If it isn't, change it. Be the person you want to date. Become closer and closer to living a transparent life, so that you are comfortable sharing yourself with others as you go about your day.

 

Don't worry about where you end up. That will solve itself.

[Jeffbobo]

Live each day pursuing your interests. Keep growing, using your body and your mind for activities. Trust that what you arendoung every day is leading you where you want to go. If it isn't, change it. Be the person you want to date. Become closer and closer to living a transparent life, so that you are comfortable sharing yourself with others as you go about your day.

 

Don't worry about where you end up. That will solve itself.

 

I do believe you can put this in a bottle and sell it. Good stuff! 😄

[IAmFCA]

I do believe you can put this in a bottle and sell it. Good stuff! 😄

 

Thank you!

[journeynow]

Four of my friends (8 if I include their partners) who are in long term committed and happy relationships met their partners in their 60's. They weren't dating at the time, weren't looking, they were busy with other interests, living their lives, REALLY LIVING their lives, and met people they clicked with. From what I see, they are happy and active together and the couples live together. Which is to say, it can happen at any age. (You don't have to wait until 60.)

[Abby01]

I feel you. Im 46 and havent been in a relationship for a while. There are times you miss the feeling of having someone but just have to live one day at a time. You still have your family and friends,keep busy.someone say "there are millions of people in the world for sure there is one person for me"

[catfeeder]

A girlfriend and I encountered an elderly couple cuddling on a park bench. GF says, "Oh, I envy them and their history together..." I asked, "How do you know that they didn't just meet?"

 

If you put urgency on a calendar, that becomes your driver--and it's a lousy driver.

 

Head high, and become your own best companion. From there, you won't scare yourself with scarcity fantasies or settle for anything less than true simpatico.

[RogellParadox]

I sometimes feel the same. But people like us are especial, dude.

Just fill in your mind and time with activities you like.

[Wiseman2]

At each stage in life, people find love. Puppy love or the person you build a family with or later on people a find themselves single again and want to restore a relationship, etc. The key seems to be finding someone at the same life-stage looking for the same things.

Dating can be challenging enough and probably more at the age of 47. Though, I am not ready for a relationship at this time, I will be in the near future.