I love her but I don't know what to do

[Jasonsaiyan]

My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. Little background information before we dated we were close friends for all 4 years of high school and we started dating after. We have problems we always been able to bounce back but this time I don't know what to do. There's this guy who flirts with her at work and she does flirt back but at one point she started texting him and developed a crush on him, she told me about it which I didn't knew and we got into a fight and she started to cry. Second time I found out she was still texting him and she told him it's just texting , the guy has been asking her out but shes been rejecting him and that's when she stopped that was about 3 months ago. Then about 2 weeks ago she went to a baby shower of a coworker and he was there and she told me that he texted her after while when they stopped texting and talking and she started to have a crush again. She tells me that he means nothing to her , that a crush doesn't mean anything , she's been rejecting on his advances on her and I'm only guy she wants and she does love me that I shouldn't be worried about anything we had a fight about that. She also told me she inviting everyone from her job to her stepdad party because most of her friends works there and he actually going. What should I do? Should I just believe or just break up her or give us some space. I really do love her and want to believe what she says but I feel like its ticking clock before she actually does something with this "crush". She says she doesn't want nothing with him,, that I'm way better than him ,she just likes how they talk.

[MissCanuck]

This is a disaster waiting to happen.

 

She is not setting appropriate boundaries with this guy, and it's because she likes him too. If she loved you as much as she claims, she would have put him in his place and protected your relationship. The fact that she won't do so should tell you everything you need to know. I agree it's only a matter of time before something more happens between them.

 

How old are the both of you? She sounds quite immature and willfully naive about this situation. I have a feeling she's on her way out of the relationship, to be honest.

[Dahl]

This is a disaster waiting to happen.

 

 

I second this, emphatically.

 

You may want to believe her but she doesn't seem to be giving you much to believe in.

 

Best case - unbelievable but best case - you're in a relationship with someone who doesn't value the relationship, you, or herself if she's being honest with you about her regret over behavior she has yet to alter, regardless. Is that good enough for you?

 

You get what you settle for, mate. Would she tolerate this from you, do you think? Would you tolerate it from yourself?

[Wiseman2]

It's weird she needs to rub this crush nonsense in your face constantly. What's her point? Is it just for drama or trying to make you jealous for attention?

she does flirt back but at one point she started texting him and developed a crush on him and she started to have a crush again. She also told me she inviting everyone from her job to her stepdad party because most of her friends works there and he actually going. I feel like its ticking clock before she actually does something with this "crush". She says she just likes how they talk.

[angrythoughts]

Her texting him and communicating with him outside of work means she's entertaining his antics... she's allowing herself to get close enough to where she feels she has a crush for him.

 

I'm not a psychic but this sounds like one of those situations where she ends up either cheating on you or leaving you for this other dude.

 

It also sounds like she has no respect for you. I'm glad she's being honest with her feelings for this guy but she's letting herself get too close with him.