My Break Up....

[BJN31]

Hi Guys,

 

I need all the help I can get at the mo and firstly, thanks for listening.

 

I had been with my girlfriend for nearly 5 years until 3 weeks ago when she told me 'I love you but I'm not in love with you' etc and decided to end our relationship.

 

It's been a real tough time for us both as around 7 months into our relationship I was hit by a car who was not looking where he was going. It changed my life forever, I couldn't go back to full time work, i struggled with short term memory loss etc and instead of my lover she basically became my rock and career. Although physically I am absolutely fine it was just the mental side I wasnt 100%. Anyway, what resulted was a long compensation case which ironically has now just been completed. What is heartbreaking is we had so many plans for our future and could not wait to finally move out of my parents ( I had to move back - could not afford rent somewhere else etc). That had a massive impact on our relationship - we were living in the same room for almost 5 years - in hindsight it wasnt great but she still loved me and I still loved her - we knew better things were to come.

 

Anyway - she decided enough was enough and has now left What's more heartbreaking is I've found out she is seeing some 21 year old student who also lives with his parents! This is within a week of us breaking up. She is 26 and I've just turned 31 - I know she is drinking almost every night and it's hurting me to see her promising career full flat on it's face. It just doesn't make sense - we've been through so much and with a substantial compensation package - the world was our oyster. Money isn't everything and I know that - it's just so painful

 

I'm completely lost - I have no ideal what to do or how to play this. I'm currently learning to drive - applying for marketing jobs (I can now go back to work) and looking for an apartment. This was meant to be our dream now it's shattered.

 

Any help would be much appreciated

 

Cheers Guys

[Knight2001]

i really feel for you my friend. you have been through a terrible time. your g/f was brilliant in the time she was helping you and you should always appreciate that - i know you do.

now she has moved on, so as hard as it may seem you can also move on. you have a promising life in front of you. you have your compensation package plus you are looking for a new job.

once in your new job you can restart your life and say goodbye to the one you used to have.

it may be hard but you have been through a lot so i guess you will be able to move forward.

"it aint about how hard you can hit, but how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward"

[Wiseman2]

Continue moving forward with your plans and dreams and good luck with those. Sorry all this happened but it sounds like she's going through something.

Money isn't everything and I know that - it's just so painful. I'm completely lost - I have no ideal what to do or how to play this. I'm currently learning to drive - applying for marketing jobs (I can now go back to work) and looking for an apartment.