vanity Posted February 24, 2017 Share Posted February 24, 2017 as of today i am 8months pregnant. my boyfriend mom has been loving but shes starting to take over everything and the baby isnt even born yet. im afraid that i would have her sons child and he would no longer have any say so because he lets his mom control everything, he says he just want to make everyone happy but some times you have to make your self happy as well. but any who, ive stated many times i did not want to have a baby shower, his mom ignores me and says "hush girl, let someone do something nice for you some times." so because its his mom i try not to go back and forth with her. i let her talk about this shower but i will stop her all the time and tell her i really dont want to have a shower and then again she tells me "i thought we already went over this before." i tell her even though we talked about this she isnt listening to me and she will say "it will be fun, you dont have to pay for anything, just enjoy your pregnancy and shower." a couple of days ago she came to me and asked me what kind of decorations would i like? and to pick out the accessories/decorations... but i feel if youre throwing a shower for some one, DONT make them pick all the decorations, while you stuff your face with food, ESPECIALLY if the person never wanted the shower in the first place. i stayed up all night looking for things online with no ones help. my boyfriend and i spoke plenty of times about the baby shower i didnt want and he said "babe its just a one time thing, if mom wants to do it, let her do it." so now im just doing what would makes his mom happy. his mom went out for swim suits and she called my phone and asked did i want her to get me a swim suit and i said no, its bad enough im having a shower i dont want to have so just let me pick my own swim wear out this lady had a nerve to tell me "you always complaining, but i will let you pick it out if thats what you want to do." his mom comes to see me and she said "you can do the finger food!" im like i dont even want to have a shower so why should i have to do anything? and she says "if you get your taxes before the baby showers date, you can help out with the stuff." you guys now this was the time that i became FIRM and straight foward... i began to tell her I DONT WANT TO HAVE THE SHOWER AND I FEEL LIKE SHES FORCING ME TO DO SOMETHING I CONTINUED TO TELL HER I DONT WANT TO DO. his mom told me "forcing you is making you do something you dont want to do" i told her thats exactly what shes doing. so she walks away from me, then comes back and says "everyone called off of work and the shower is 2weeks away" i told her if those people knew i didnt want to have a shower they would have never called off or anything. so shes very upset with me, she waited till she seen her son (my boyfriend) to talk to him about me, which i knew she was gonna do. My boyfriend comes and ask me why dont i wanna have the shower anymore and i told him, i NEVER wanted the shower, his mom wanted it and i was just going along to make her happy, i was never happy about doing this and he knows i didnt want to do this just as well as he knew. my boyfriend tells me im being a little rude and disrespectful so im like hold up, hold up. just because she runs over you doesnt mean shes going to do it to me. My no is no and thats final. i also told his mom that he didnt even care about having the baby shower, she just forced it. i mean she asked him did he want one and he said "it doesnt matter, what ever makes her happy." but if im the pregnant one shouldnt it be whatever makes me happy?????? i hate that, thats his favorite response to her every time she ask him something. LIKE WHEN IS HE GONNA SAY NO SOMETIMES. he did not have my back when she was talking to him about me and when he came to talk to me, he made me feel like he just wanted me to do what she say and just stop being complicated. his mom is always in our business and i enjoy my privacy. every time im on the phone she would stand near me or him to hear. she has told me numerous of times in different ways her son dropped of school to be with her and hes not moving out but when i speak to him about buying a house he always include his mom on having the extra room. his mom has talked about buying a bassinet for my baby to stay with her and she has also talked about buying her own stroller and car seat and baby bag as if my child is going to just be with her and im not the mom. right now i left my boyfriend because things has gotten a little heated and im feeling alone because hes my babies father and im starting to see that hes a mothers boy and anything mommy says is right, so how could you raise a child if youre still one your self in my eyes my boyfriend has no spine when it comes to his mom. i expected him to tell her "if my girlfriend doesnt want to do something mom, dont force her." and it just feel as if he turned his back on me, when i went packing my bag he didnt even say "why are you leaving, or lets talk." he said not one word and i havent spoke to him at all since i left home last night or at all today.. 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