lonelyNoob Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 Earlier in the week I met this cute girl at the collage gym. She make a joke and i joked back and then out the way out we bumped into each other and talked for a bit. Then when I go to my locker (foolishly) I said goodbye. She told me to add her on Facebook but I couldn't as I don't know her sir name. I think she's funny and cute and really want to talk more and meet up but since the gym I haven't seen her. Should I: 1. Hope we meet at the gym again and talk to her then (which is not ideal as there will be others there and it's unlikely we will meet on the way out again)? 2. Do I find out her sir name from a friend in her class and talk chatting to her on Fb messenger, getting to know her and asking if she wants to meet up? 3. Hope to bump into her in collage and get chatting and ask for her number (which may not work as I might not bump into her or she may be with friends)? Please help! Thank you.
Dahl Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 Given that she initiated a direct invitation for you to look her up, I would think any of the three options are viable. Though you may consider modifying the second one to giving your information to them with a polite request to pass it along to her, explaining your situation. That way her friend won't potentially feel put off at giving out her information for any reason. Good luck.
Wiseman2 Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 She's interested! 4) Ask her to go for coffee or something next time you see her and get her phone number. 1. Hope we meet at the gym again and talk to her then (which is not ideal as there will be others there and it's unlikely we will meet on the way out again)? 2. Do I find out her sir name from a friend in her class and talk chatting to her on Fb messenger, getting to know her and asking if she wants to meet up? 3. Hope to bump into her in collage and get chatting and ask for her number (which may not work as I might not bump into her or she may be with friends)?
lonelyNoob Posted February 24, 2017 Author Posted February 24, 2017 I like 2. most as i'm not leaving it up to chance. Don't worry about the friend giving out info, im sure they will be fine with it. The only thing about the FB message is, if we hit it off how would i go from talking to her there to asking her out as I could message her during a conversation "gotta go but want to meet up some time?" but from what i understand that the sort of thing you do in person. Also if we FB messaged for too long im worried about getting friend zoned, how would I stop that? Thanks for you help!
lonelyNoob Posted February 24, 2017 Author Posted February 24, 2017 She's interested! 4) Ask her to go for coffee or something next time you see her and get her phone number. That would be best but i dont know when im going to see her and if i do she may be at the gym where it's not best to talk or she may be with friends and im not that comfortable in front of them. Also is it too soon to ask her number? we've only talked for about 5-10 mins?
Wiseman2 Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 Ok try the Fb thing, since she invited you to look her up there. She in fact initiated all this so sure, ask for her number and a low key casual coffee, whatever to feel the situation out. Go for it!Also is it too soon to ask her number? we've only talked for about 5-10 mins?
Andrina Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 Since she gave you a direct invitation for Facebook, then of course it's fine to ask your friend her last name. I wouldn't let more than a week pass by without messaging her to see if she wants to meet on campus between classes or after a last class for a smoothie or whatever. You will be able to get feedback during a get together on whether to go forward or not. Never let an opportunity like this slip by and don't give excuses that she will be around friends or it's not a convenient time at the gym. Risk is scary but it's better than not taking a chance at all. A person is usually glad you went out of the way to make an effort, showing their importance. If it happened not to work out, at least you had closure and never had to think of "what if" and a lost opportunity.
Dahl Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 This sounds promising! Hope you'll come back to update us on your progress, as well Cheers Also, I don't think that you'll go wrong with asking her for coffee directly via message - I just saw your question about doing it in person. I lean toward in person options, too, but I don't believe it will come off poorly or anything negative if you ask her on FB. Just something low key like, 'glad to connect with you. Would you have time to grab a coffee with me this week' etc. Good luck, mate
Wolfshook Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 Fb has such a powerfull search engine that it's sometimes scary. So,if you cant see her in gym (which would be preferable),search for her on fb,add her and come up with some fun text.
randomer2000 Posted February 25, 2017 Posted February 25, 2017 Any of those 3 options should be fine. Don't think about it because she is the one who asked you to add her, so just say something along the lines of "Oh I tried to add you but couldn't find you" and then get her to use your phone and find herself and add, and you can directly ask her for her number there as well. Just say you barely use messenger and use whatsapp more.
newtothegame98 Posted February 25, 2017 Posted February 25, 2017 I'd wait until you see her at the gym, skip the facebook- get her number! She was basically pleading for it when talking to you. You'll run into her again- but now you know what to do Surely this isn't the only girl that has initiated contact with you/ you with her, take it slow. I've noticed when pursuing girls I've liked, it always takes a lil time
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