Cam72887 Posted February 24, 2017 Share Posted February 24, 2017 I recently started talking to my wife about two weeks ago when she text me that we can now file the divorce papers. We have been separated for 3 years but never filed the papers because of immigration issues. After the conversation I can't stop thinking about wether leaving her was a good idea. We have been texting ever since and mat up twice. The feelings are definitely still there but so is part of her anger (how much? I feel like I'd have to date her again to find out). The love we had was something I have never felt with another woman since or before. She has always said the same and has never stopped trying to get me back, she just finally accepted I wouldn't. The reason I left her was because she had some mental health issues (chemical imbalances in her brain) that made her pretty much a ticking time bomb. Fights with her were constant and escalated extremely far. I eventually left not because I didn't love her but because she destroyed our relationship and my life. Now that we have been separated for the Past few years she accepted she had issues, had treatment both medically and psychologically for them and according to her family whom I am still good friends with is like a completely different person. To be honest the only reason I didn't give her a shot when she got back from her treatment two years ago was because I had just started dating a new woman whom I am still with. She is the sweetest most caring person I have ever dated and truly loves me. I love her a lot but also can't see a family or marriage with her. She is 5 years younger than me and wants to wait until she is at least 30 before having kids which puts me at 35 or older. Our relationship isn't perfect, we absolutely never fight but the passion was never there, her libido is almost non existent and I hate that when we hangout she almost never has anything to say. She is also very young maturity wise, has never lived with someone and has no desire to move in with me for a long time or have a marriage/family until she is 30-35. With my ex I could talk with her for hours and have a blast, the passion was unreal and she is just an amazing woman in a lot of ways (when she wasn't angry, hurtful or in a violent rage). Now I am torn between getting back with my wife to see if she truly has changed or staying with my current girlfriend, waiting until she is at the same point of life I am at now and trying to work past our issues in the process. The problem is I've come to a cross roads and I know if I make the wrong decision I won't be able to get the other one back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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