Sending an email to my ex

[AMC1995]

It's funny. At first I wanted to send an email to the ex explaining that I still had feelings for her. (The breakup was instigated by her and we've been Apart for just a month with NC the whole time.) of course I wasn't planning to send the e-mail until maybe two months later and was just seeing what I'd write in the first place . But even just writing the email itself.. I don't think I have the will or want really to send it.. It's strange.. I still love her and really want to get back together with her, but I find myself feeling that this is sort of unnecessary from my own emotional spectrum.

 

Still though.. I really do want to hear from her again and as the time passes more and more, I don't think I can ever just be a friend to her without any romantic pretenses involved. I thought I might be ok with being friendst at first, but as I engage myself with other girls, I find myself longing for her love more and more. I've always missed her after the breakup, but I think things are starting to become more clear now about what I want from her again if the opportunity ever presents itself.

 

The breakup wasn't instigated because of lack of commitment or emotions, we were a fantastic couple, but just being in an LDR right now and continuing to be an LDR when she goes to out of state university gave her something of Cold feet to continue. Who knows if she'll contact me again and under what pretenses.

[Wiseman2]

Yes definitely write it all out. However do not send it. You drag yourself in and lose all control. Did she get it? did she read it? will she respond? when? how will she respond?, etc.

I wasn't planning to send the e-mail until maybe two months later and was just seeing what I'd write in the first place . Who knows if she'll contact me again and under what pretenses.

[AMC1995]

Yes definitely write it all out. However do not send it. You drag yourself in and lose all control. Did she get it? did she read it? will she respond? when? how will she respond?, etc.

 

 

You know.. With how wishy washy and sort of "meh" feeling about even writing this email, some might say that that this might be the best time to write it, to evaluate one's own thoughts. It feels weird, like there's a disconnect within me. One side I really want to be together with her again, other side, I don't want to write or send something explaining my "newfound clarity on my emotions". I just .. Don't right now.. Maybe I'd rather Have those emotions show themselves to her naturally if I can get the opportunity once again. Who knows how I'll feel toward this in the future.. But I do feel certain that I still will have the same love I have for her regardless if some users might disagree.

 

it is therapeutic having my own thoughts here as well.

[Scoe141]

Like wise said, I would write it out via pen or pencil. It's a lot easier to hit send then it is to drop it off in a mailbox.

 

Ask yourself, is trying to convince her to like you more authentic then finding someone who genuinely wants to be with you?

 

You shouldn't have to coerce someone into being with you. I know this time sucks, but it will get better. Stay the course and be strong.

 

Good luck man, we're here for you.

[AMC1995]

 

Ask yourself, is trying to convince her to like you more authentic then finding someone who genuinely wants to be with you?

 

 

I wouldn't say that it be convincing her from my perspective. I just wanted to get the last hurrah In because of my own revelation and clarity. I want her to know I still love her and want to be with her, but that I'd understand why she wouldn't. Even explaining this to you .. Makes me feel .. I don't know.. Meh right now. I just don't really see myself losing feelings just based on my past experiences itself. I don't fault her in the break up nor do I have any negative feelings toward her or myself.