FuryLost Posted February 22, 2017 Share Posted February 22, 2017 I've (23M) never been able to work up the courage and ask a girl out on a date. Too shy, too insecure. So of course that means I've only been able to experience hugs and kisses on the cheek from platonic friends. Nothing more, unfortunately. It's a combination of the emotional and physical connection that I'm sorely missing. But it's the fact that I've never kissed/ been kissed that's bothering me the most. A real kiss. Not sure why. A kiss seems so simple to everyone else, and here I am, more confused about it than Calculus. Sex, yeah, it'd be really, really good sometimes, too. But the intimacy of a kiss seems...on another level. I've recently tried Tinder--for roughly five days. Swiped through quite a number of profiles, came up empty. The only 2 matches were bots. Part of the problem may have been that I gave up too soon and only had 2 pictures. Not fond of the camera. Besides, I don't think I'm that ugly. Handsome, if I have to say. It's no problem to talk to people and make them laugh, however. A couple friends have said that I have a disarming effect--people seem to feel comfortable, at ease, open around me. Suppose the central problem is that I don't know how to date. For instance, upon meeting a girl, when should I ask for her number/ ask her out? Too soon and I come across as a creep. Too late and I'm either forgotten or considered a friend. There's two girls in particular that I currently have crushes on. Both work at businesses near home and both I've known for almost a year. Not in the sense of friends, but that every once in a while I drop by, grab a drink, joke around, and go about my day. One of the girls, it took me almost three months to ask her for her name. By now, I'm certain she's forgotten mine. Another issue is that I'm in my head a lot. I'm hardly vocal, so any issues/problems end up bouncing around in my noggin 'til I've lost my nerve and/or made up the problem to be far worse than it actually is. Why I'm in this situation now. Whew. If anyone could give any suggestions or advice, it'd be much appreciated guys. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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