FWB with my EX?

[Imnomermaid]

Just recently I broke up with my boyfriend of ten months because I wasn't getting the treatment I deserve. In ten months he hadn't taken me out on a single date and never proved to me that he loves me, just said it. So, long story short, I ended things with him and have started moving on. However, at this particular moment, I'm not looking for anything committed. I just want to experiment around with some people and see where things go.

 

Because of this, I've decided to start forming a couple FWB relationships and would like to establish one with a guy I used to date. He's planning on moving away to another state soon, so it would be easy to just have a fling with no strings attached. How exactly would I go about establishing this relationship with him? We don't talk very often, and when we do it's usually short conversations about standard conversation topics.

 

Would I be completely out of line to try and develop a relationship with him? If not, how would I go about asking him to be in this kind of platonic relationship with me?

[Boughtandpaidfor]

It totally depends on his feelings for you, which are not really clear from what you've written.

 

Your feelings are clear, so you can state them if your primary goal is to fulfil your needs without hurting anyone.

[Wiseman2]

Invite him over for Netflix and chill, see what happens...

I've decided to start forming a couple FWB relationships and would like to establish one with a guy I used to date. How exactly would I go about establishing this relationship with him?

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[Hollyj]

Why were you involved with someone who kept you a secret for ten months?

 

Personally, I think you should deal with your low self esteem issues, other than hookups.

 

Ugh! I just read that you are only 16.

[HeartGoesOn]

Since you're only 16 (as stated in a previous thread) it may be helpful to begin to think of the potential consequence of the choices you're making. Why not take a break and get your life together before making any impulsive decisions?

[ParisPaulette]

Oh gosh, never mind. I'm going to sound like your mother, because I'm yeah that old. But at 16, please just let yourself grow up a bit more before you start talking things like FWB. Practice safe sex, DON'T have sex with anyone who isn't a minor or you run the very real risk of landing them on a sex offender list and those are for life. You can totally destroy someone's life as can they yours by having sex with older men.

 

Respect yourself. Learn to love yourself first and the rest will follow, but I don't think you can handle an FWB since you let yourself be kept somebody's little secret for 10 months. It's great you walked, but maybe it's time to not focus on guys as the sole source of your happiness, because no one else should be that.

 

Give yourself some room, you're only 16. And I know this advice will probably go out the window, because 16-year-old me would have rolled her eyes at this post too. But I wish I'd had someone tell me these things, so here I am giving you advice. Work on your own self-esteem, gather your own accomplishments, be happy within yourself and do not agree to be anyone's anything if it's not something that works for you or makes you feel bad about yourself or worse. Stay safe.

[catfeeder]

I've decided to start forming a couple FWB relationships

 

This makes no sense. You just broke up with a guy for treating you like one of those.

[Longview01]

Mu suggestion would be to not put it about when you are 16

[missyb33]

You are worth so much more than FWB.And also..there are always strings attached which you may not realize yet but you will.