Deleting Profile vs. Hiding Profile

[soconfused08]

I became exclusive with a man I met on Okcupid yesterday. We are now boyfriend/girlfriend. We dated nonexclusively for four months last year, faded apart mutually, and decided to give it a try again last week for real. Yesterday we agreed to take down our profiles. Here's the thing. When I first met him I did I search of his Okcupid username and saw he was on POF like I was. I went to search him yesterday and saw he was still on there. I did some investigation and figured out he had hidden his profile. That means he is on there but no one can see him or contact him or match him. I am fine with that. I have a feeling he disabled his profile his profile on Okcupid as well. Now my question is if this indicates anything. Does hiding a profile mean he wants to give it a try before he deletes completely? How long should I give him before a hidden profile should be a concern or is it OK? Thanks.

[notalady]

I wouldn't be concerned at all. My boyfriend never deleted his, it's still hidden (was only brought up because I said I wanted to see if I can find our old messages on there, but realised I had deleted the whole profile, he said his is hidden). Never gave it a second thought, I mean, what's the difference? You can always make a new one even if you deleted it. How is that different to hiding and unhiding? He's done the right thing and probably never think about it again, so don't expect him to go back and delete it.

 

Have you met in person? Just curious as you posted under cyber relationships.

[soconfused08]

Thank you so much! That's comforting. Sorry. I might have put this in the wrong section. I thought this section was for all relationships that started online. We have met.

[Fudgie]

I think hiding a profile is a lot easier than deleting. My OKC profile is "disabled", not deleted permanently.

[radiance]

I don't think his profile status is anything to worry about... Might be more concerned about why you feel the need to go "digging"?

[j.man]

My online dating profile was pretty amazing. I still kinda regret deleting it this time around.

 

But I'd take it at face value: It's easier to hide and it's nice to not have to make a new one should you two not work out. It seems he's quite reasonably not jumping straight into happily-ever-after mode. Keep digging around and letting insecurity take hold and I suspect he'll be reactivating that profile sooner than later.

[Wiseman2]

How long have you been dating this time around? Why did it fade last time? Have those issues been addressed/resolved?

 

It sounds like don't trust him and if you have profiles up and are logging in to check on him, can he see that?

 

Exclusive means you are only dating/sexually active with each other. Let's put it this way, if you have to cyberstalk dating profiles for answers, this isn't going to go well. Were you cheated on in the past? Where is this coming from?

We dated nonexclusively for four months last year, faded apart mutually, and decided to give it a try again last week for real. he was on POF like I was. he had hidden his profile.

[tattoobunnie]

I honestly think I still have a match.com profile from like 7 years ago that I hid ages ago, and never looked back.