PurpleViolet Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 We've been together 8 years now. In the beginning of our relationship I never noticed how emotionally disconnected he was, until I tried to have a deep conversation with him. It was like watching a robot shut down. I started to notice that he only has 2 emotions, happy and angry. And if he feels anything other than those 2 emotions he quickly turns any feelings he has into anger. I learnt not to bring up certain conversations or too even get emotional myself. If I cried in front of him he was instantly tell me to stop or he would get nasty and say extremely hurtful things to me. His mother passed away 4 years ago and the first few times I asked if he was alright or wanted to talk he would get angry at me and say "how the f#*k do you think I am? " so I stopped asking him all together. But now that I don't ask he throws it in my face, he tells me I don't care about him and I never ask how he's doing. I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. We hit a very rough patch about a year ago and I kept trying to get him to open up about our relationship and what's he's happy and unhappy with. I wanted to know where his head was at. I fully opened up to him I felt embarrassed and silly but after I felt closer to him but when I asked his view on things he just said he was happy and he had no input on our relationship... I need emotional connection. I need to know we can talk to each other about anything but he's so emotionally closed off I get nothing from him. What should I do? How can we work on our relationship if we don't actually talk about it? I've left it alone hoping he might come to me but nothing we don't have any real conversations at all. Anyone's input would be great good or bad, hit me with it. I feel lonely almost. Like I don't know him at all. I actually told him I feel disconnected from him and he just gave me a hug. Link to comment
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