Had a surreal experience today, made me question how life works..

[RIPDIME]

I've started to notice certain patterns in my life. While I think back on my memories, I started realizing that certain events happen at specific times to push my life in a certain direction, and at times saved me from the brink, and they seem to have meaning outside of being just a random event. However, none of these memories seemed significant enough to really question my idea that everything in the universe has meaning or significance.

 

So, here's what happened. I am looking for a new room. I moved into a house a year and a half ago with my ex-girlfriend, she moved out, and I've kind of been stuck here for a while. I really like my room-mates, there's lots of freedom here to do whatever you want, location is ideal and a big yard for my cat, but on the other hand--the house is noisy, the laundry is right beside my room going off, it's cold as it's not insulated properly, it's infested with rats. I decided one day to do something about it, and give my notice and look for a new place to move on in life.

 

I found a new place, but I'll get back to that in a bit. Last night I ended up going to the bar, and talked to a girl. She pointed out a guy and went into her life story, how he ended up being a douche bag. After that, I couldn't stop thinking about what she said, and for some reason it consumed my thoughts, for example, why girls often go or persuaded by these types of men, questions of morality and human nature..

 

So, back to the room. Today I go to pay the damage deposit. The landlord shows me the room and says as before, 'I had a guy renting here for a month, but he hasn't been here for two weeks and hasn't contacted me, he's probably in jail, so it's all yours.' As I am handing her the damage deposit, the guy from last night appears, still intoxicated, and says, 'I'm back,' and explains a crazy story of why he was gone.

 

You have to realize that I live in a city with a regional area of 100,000 people. Is this really something that is, 'coincidence'. What if, really, the universe throws us clues, hints? Did the universe prevent me from renting? Was it giving me a sign to think of and orient my life around? I feel like I really want to move on with my life, but after all these rentals, it made me start questioning lots of things, should I have broke up with my ex? should I be leaving this place? Is this a sign that the girls I am looking for in bars are dishonest, or that I'm headed down the wrong path?

 

I really don't like to resort to magical thinking, but an event like this seems too bizarre to be, 'random,' and it made me question a lot of my assumptions on whether there's a lot more to making the right choice than rational calculation.

[gebaird]

it made me question a lot of my assumptions on whether there's a lot more to making the right choice than rational calculation.

 

Intuition is definitely a very real thing. Different personalities rely on it more or less heavily.

 

When I was making a life-changing career decision a few months ago, I couldn't make sense of the numbers and facts floating around in my head. There was just too much uncertainty in the equation. It honestly came down to -- and this is probably going to sound weird -- cherry blossoms. I remembered looking out the window last spring at my current workplace and seeing the cherry trees blossoming outside. I said to myself in that moment "I'm going to see these trees bloom next year." That's what kept me from taking the other offer I'd received and moving on.

 

I may or may not find out if I made the "right" decision, but there's no use regretting what's been done.

[Dahl]

*possible, probably not, but maybe SPOILER alert for No Country for Old Men*

 

On a related (and serious - in no way being a smart alec or other waste of time, here) note, the OP's quote above reminded me of McCarthy's brilliant No Country for Old Men and the Chigurh character.

 

Chap literally made life and death decisions based on the flip of a coin. Most often affecting the lives and deaths of other people.

 

McCarthy made it make sense. But the explanation I can best provide comes from the movie version, in the form of the following quotations:

 

After being told to 'call it' as he flips his coin into the air, the response to him is: "The coin don't have no say. It's just you."

 

Anton Chigurh: "Well, I got here the same way the coin did."

[catfeeder]

First step: decide what you want. Otherwise, trying to divine signs from events is chaotic because you have no rudder. That's a candle in the wind thing.

 

You have concrete reasons for wanting to move, and you've given notice. Start there. You didn't decide to move because the room you found was so fabulous, you found the room because you want to move out.

 

Sure, the current tenant showing up was a sign. For him, because he was about to lose his place and possibly all his stuff, so he broke through his drunken haze to respond. For you, because it wasn't the right room for you--so find another one where the landlord won't put you in potential jeopardy by moving you in before someone else knows that they've moved out.

 

There's your clarity: people can be self interested. Be careful about who you're dealing with, make sure that your new place is BETTER than the one you're leaving, and if you can't find an ideal scenario, find out whether you can extend your current notice until you've found the right place for you.

 

You can take some of the pressure out of your cooker by trusting that when we 'need' to know something, the message is usually apparent. When it isn't, it may be a piece to a puzzle, but since YOU drive that puzzle, it's up to you to lay the foundation of WHAT YOU WANT. If you don't have a vision to move toward, you'll just get blown around trying to find signs and signals in everything without moving any closer to some non-existent goal.

 

Make a list of things you want in your next location. If you like your current roommates, ask whether they'd like to get a new place together with you. If you like your current location, focus your radius near there. Use your list of positives to keep you focused on what you WANT to find, and don't settle on a place just because it's somewhere other than where you are now.

[beast1125]

I've started to notice certain patterns in my life. While I think back on my memories, I started realizing that certain events happen at specific times to push my life in a certain direction, and at times saved me from the brink, and they seem to have meaning outside of being just a random event. However, none of these memories seemed significant enough to really question my idea that everything in the universe has meaning or significance.

 

So, here's what happened. I am looking for a new room. I moved into a house a year and a half ago with my ex-girlfriend, she moved out, and I've kind of been stuck here for a while. I really like my room-mates, there's lots of freedom here to do whatever you want, location is ideal and a big yard for my cat, but on the other hand--the house is noisy, the laundry is right beside my room going off, it's cold as it's not insulated properly, it's infested with rats. I decided one day to do something about it, and give my notice and look for a new place to move on in life.

 

I found a new place, but I'll get back to that in a bit. Last night I ended up going to the bar, and talked to a girl. She pointed out a guy and went into her life story, how he ended up being a douche bag. After that, I couldn't stop thinking about what she said, and for some reason it consumed my thoughts, for example, why girls often go or persuaded by these types of men, questions of morality and human nature..

 

So, back to the room. Today I go to pay the damage deposit. The landlord shows me the room and says as before, 'I had a guy renting here for a month, but he hasn't been here for two weeks and hasn't contacted me, he's probably in jail, so it's all yours.' As I am handing her the damage deposit, the guy from last night appears, still intoxicated, and says, 'I'm back,' and explains a crazy story of why he was gone.

 

You have to realize that I live in a city with a regional area of 100,000 people. Is this really something that is, 'coincidence'. What if, really, the universe throws us clues, hints? Did the universe prevent me from renting? Was it giving me a sign to think of and orient my life around? I feel like I really want to move on with my life, but after all these rentals, it made me start questioning lots of things, should I have broke up with my ex? should I be leaving this place? Is this a sign that the girls I am looking for in bars are dishonest, or that I'm headed down the wrong path?

 

I really don't like to resort to magical thinking, but an event like this seems too bizarre to be, 'random,' and it made me question a lot of my assumptions on whether there's a lot more to making the right choice than rational calculation.

 

There is absolutely much more to making the right choice than rational calculation. This is a little off topic, but here me out. We are broken creatures. We are not doing what we are designed and meant to do. At least not very many of us. Do you ever have this inner sense of wanting to know the truth about why we are here and what our purpose is? Life and death? Do you feel that you fill your time with convenience and comforts in order to suppress that longing for truth? I challenge anyone to just sit in their emotions for a day. Just sit in nature and allow your mind to sort through unresolved internal conflict without the daily distractions of smart phones and netflix. You will become more self-aware and more emotionally healthy. Your heart's desires lead your life's directions.