Partner goes to bar every night & no Valentine's gift

[beez78]

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. It's been a challenging and often heartbreaking relationship. A year ago he had an affair with a much younger women - he is 46 (I am 38)It was hard but we worked through it and I thought things were much better, we were closer than ever before and he has built a nice relationship with my 9 year old son since then. We get in to pretty constant arguments over the fact that he spends hours at the bar every day after work and spends a fortune and is always 'broke' and only ''stops by' to say hi on his way back to his place. He does spend weekends at mine. I always feel like such an afterthought to him. For Valentine's Day I made him a painting with all of our nice memories on it and he got me a $2 box of chocolates from the gas station. I told him that the gift made me feel sad but I was tactful about it and he went in to a rage about 'giving him ' and hasn't spoken to me since. I do love him so very much. Am I being petty? He is impossible to talk to and when I get upset he withdraws more and stonewalls me. I guess I just need some advice. I am so anxious and hurt.

[Wiseman2]

Is he an alcoholic? This is a lot of hell to go through in just 2 yrs, no. How is your relationship with you son's father? You should focus on building that for your son, not bfs. Sorry but I wouldn't want a cheating, alcoholic ahole like that around my kids.

 

Take this opportunity to reflect on how horrible things are.

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. It's been a challenging and often heartbreaking relationship. We get in to pretty constant arguments over the fact that he spends hours at the bar every day after work and spends a fortune and is always 'broke' and only ''stops by' to say hi on his way back to his place.

[Ms Darcy]

Sorry to say, it doesn't seem like he loves you. If anything, he's just comfortable. I would not stick around if I were you.