I miss him so much

[Beth66]

So from the title of this it may sound like a breakup but actually worse! The love of my life is working all. The. Time. He's such a hard worker and that's an awesome quality in a guy and I'm so happy he has that, but I miss him so much. So two weeks ago he started up a second job in addition to his first job. He was working retail, now he's working security and has kept his retail job for 2 days a week. His new job is awesome! Makes a lot more money, pretty easy, fun, safe etc... He works at a beautiful hotel in a wonderful part of town. Gorgeous! Something people would travel to stay at, right on the beach. His job is more of just keeping an eye on the hotel, making sure everyone's safe, and checking parked cars for parking violations. I'm so happy that I don't have to feel afraid for him to be at work. Problem? He's out from 10PM all the way until 8AM!!! So when he gets off at 8 he's exhausted and has to go home to sleep for the next night. Sometimes he makes time to see me in the mornings but only for a few hours. I feel awfully lonely without him. We used to spend part of everyday together now we're down to just a few days a week. It's killing me right now. I miss him all the time and he misses me too. Since he's started I've been alone so much more of the time and I don't even know what to do with myself! I'm already working 4 hours a day but sadly it's more towards night, so I'm stuck home for a lot of the day, I'm also a college student so I have a lot of free time when I'm not in or working on my classes or at actual work. (Until Fall I'm going to a very small community college and since I'm not at the main campus there aren't very many clubs/ social gatherings) I've never felt this depressed. Whenever I think about him I find myself crying and missing him. I know with time I will get more used to this schedule, but I will still have a lot of time to do nothing with. What should I do? I already work 6-10 every night so I don't have enough time to get a day job too.

[Dahl]

Hello, Beth.

 

Is there any way to join him at the hotel occasionally? Even if you two aren't able to hang out, proper, perhaps you could bring food stuffs to assemble for dinners, set a pleasant atmosphere, even if you are in your corner doing your class work and he's in another doing his, well, work work.

 

My best advice is to focus on any and all positive aspects you two can possibly glean from this setup, such as the opportunity to make quality versus quantity time an actual happening.

 

I wish you both the best in this.

[charity]

Beth do you have friends, a hobby, family? I know you miss him and that's normal but seeing each other a few times a week is normal too. I think now would be a good time to make some happiness for yourself rather than depending on him to make your happiness.