I told him I wasn't feeling it, now what do I say?

[Person1001]

I started dating again and a guy reconnected w/me online after 6 months. I went on a date and I did not connect w/him, it takes me a very short time to determine if I like the guy or not. He isn't a bad person and I apologized, now he is messaging me telling me he feels like crap that I judged him. I feel horrible for not liking him, what can I do? I have been rejected before and I just let it go especially if its only been a 1st date. He got way to invested in me, always messaging me before we actually met.

[Wiseman2]

Do you think he's just filler until your LDR bf gets back from vacation and you hear from him again? That can make a new date seems drab, no?

I apologized, now he is messaging me telling me he feels like crap that I judged him.

[j.man]

You can block his number. He's a grown adult. He'll get over the rejection. Are you looking for an excuse to cave and go out with him again?

[boltnrun]

Another guy???

 

Why all the serial dating? Do you just really, really want someone you can call "boyfriend"?

[Person1001]

Do you think he's just filler until your LDR bf gets back from vacation and you hear from him again? That can make a new date seems drab, no?

 

No he isnt. Ive accepted the fact that his chapter in my life is over.

[reinventmyself]

His comfort is his responsibility.

 

You `not feeling it' isn't a reflection of his worth.

If he thinks it is then he shouldn't be dating.

 

I wouldn't entertain any further conversation with this guy. He seems a little off.

[Krankor]

It sounds like he built it up too much in his mind before you actually met. That's one of the dangers of OLD and why I think it's a good idea to meet in person before too long.

 

You have the right to decide that you aren't interested. This guy is being a bit of a baby, quite frankly, and is embarrassing himself when he should be bowing out gracefully with his head held high. If he doesn't knock it off you may have to block him.

[LonelyPast]

If you've already told him then there's nothing more that can be said. It sounds like you've both got different approaches to dating and you're judging each other for it. This may feed his "I try to be a nice guy but girls don't feel any attraction towards me so maybe I should be more of an " complex and perhaps you'll have to shake off the "Chemistry is important to me, so I'm not going to settle when I don't feel anything, but then society will judge me for it, and that sucks" frustrations. Hopefully you'll both have better experiences soon.

[Person1001]

His comfort is his responsibility.

 

You `not feeling it' isn't a reflection of his worth.

If he thinks it is then he shouldn't be dating.

 

I wouldn't entertain any further conversation with this guy. He seems a little off.

 

I never let men (ar least men ive never met be4) determine my self worth. If im in a relationship w, yeah it hurts and i may doubt myself, but it doesnt determine what happens in my life. He is a little off, i picked up on it.

[Birdie]

6 days ago your relationship with a guy you "truly loved" ended.

 

Take some time to be single!!!!!

[Person1001]

It sounds like he built it up too much in his mind before you actually met. That's one of the dangers of OLD and why I think it's a good idea to meet in person before too long.

 

You have the right to decide that you aren't interested. This guy is being a bit of a baby, quite frankly, and is embarrassing himself when he should be bowing out gracefully with his head held high. If he doesn't knock it off you may have to block him.

 

I blocked him because he was really getting on my nerves. He def built up over text, he prob thought we had chemistry, though we never met before. This is why I wanted to vid chat beforehand.