Does anyone have the answer as to why someone would treat you like this?

[Bog man]

Hi

The short version .I met a woman 6 months ago, The first 2 months were amazing she couldn't do enough for me .She even said she wanted to marry me .Then one day out of nowhere she criticised the clothes I was wearing ,I let it slide and thought everybody's entitled to their opinion . I dress pretty well BTW. After that the criticisms became more and more , everytime I saw her there was something wrong with me. My hair wasn't up to scratch ,the way I ate my food wasn't right. ;I spoke too quickly,my car wasn't nice ,the way I drove was wrong,the list is endless I could go on forever. Then one day she says that my child I have through a previous marriage might not be mine ,which is rubbish btw.what the heck she doesn't even know my ex wife or anything about her. Whenever I left after meeting her my head was completely wrecked it was like entering a storm ever time. Last week I finally got up the courage to leave her ,I'm in no contact at the moment. She is in her early 40s . I would love to know does anyone out there know why a woman would treat a guy like this ?????I'd love some answers .??? I was pretty cool through the whole relationship and didn't react to the criticisms. Thank you soo much for reading and would really appreciate your comments

Thanks

[Wiseman2]

She's insecure and just a witch and most of all you allowed it under the guise of "I'm such a nice guy I let it roll off my back".

 

That was your biggest mistake. She was either hot or good in bed if you let all that kitty-whipping happen.

 

Next time when you see red flags like this 2 mos in, run, don't even analyse why.

Last week I finally got up the courage to leave her ,I'm in no contact at the moment.I would love to know does anyone out there know why a woman would treat a guy like this ?

[J Miracle]

Maybe she has daddy issues, maybe she's unintentionally comparing you to her ex, maybe she's emotionally abusive and wants to break you down/control you, maybe she's one of those women who needs to "fix" men. hell maybe your frumpy, eat all wrong and drive like a maniac. I wouldn't invest too much time in trying to understand Crazy Lady, especially if you gave her the boot. Which was a great idea, smooth move.

[Bog man]

Ye,she was hot ,and your right I think it was totally a control thing

[DancingFool]

Textbook abuser. Yes, women can be abusers too, although usually they'll be more emotionally abusive than physically, but it can be both.

As for why do abusers abuse? Who knows. Short answer is it makes them feel good and powerful.

 

There is really no way for a sane person to ever understand insanity. Instead of trying to understand, learn how to walk away from such behavior much much faster. Learn to recognize red flags early on - such as over the top chasing, sweeping you off your feet type stuff. It might be flattering to your ego to think someone is so instantly into you, but your rational side should be ringing alarm bells. How can a person be genuinely into you that much when they don't know you. Pushing the relationship along at a million miles an hour, talking future, marriage, etc huge giant red flags coming from someone you've barely met. Ye olde if it's too good to be true...... Of course, when they do a 180 on you and start criticizing and attacking you like that, you get up and walk out. Game over. No reason to keep going out and then going home with your head hurting.

[greta96]

Once she knew she had you right where she wanted, she no longer felt the need to hide the crazy. It happens more often than you think.

You dodged a huge bullet.

[Wiseman2]

Agree.....

Once she knew she had you right where she wanted, she no longer felt the need to hide the crazy.

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[Bog man]

Thanks so much for the posts so encouraging ,really giving me some answers

[Matt3939]

Dancingfool said it well. At least you weren't in it for years. Consider yourself lucky.

[surfdiva]

Honestly? She just sounds like a total jerk. Possibly narcissistic? But yeah, be glad you're out of that. You need a partner that makes you feel good about yourself.

 

Good luck to you!

[Bog man]

Nice one surfdiva

[Hollyj]

She sounds like a bully. Makes her feel good to tear others down.

 

If that happens again,don't wait so long to end things.

[boltnrun]

She probably thinks her "hotness" gives her an excuse to act like a "B". And there are probably plenty of men who are so wowed by her "hotness" that they're willing to put up with her lousy behavior.

[Matt3939]

Problem is no matter how hot you are you can turn extremely ugly real quick.