Confused???

[Rainbow941]

Over a year ago, (I'm a trainee attorney) I did some work for my ex, although we were together at the time.

I had a message from the other attorney last week, offering my ex some $$ for the issue. I contact him, offer him the money, he agrees. I ask that my colleague will deal with it from now on and he agrees. Fine.

 

Yesterday I get an email from my ex (from a new address. He's blocked on everything else.) with a screenshot of a message from my colleague confirming that she's sent the money via bank and could he (my ex) confirm he's received it. My colleague also put on the email, she was sorry to hear we'd split, but glad we were still on talking terms (we're not) and that he was ok with me going on a date.

 

I put 'just acknowledge you've received it and ignore the rest'.

 

He replied 'enjoy your date'

 

I ignored the message.

 

10 minutes later I receive 'So the date is true then. Hope you have a nice time'

 

'how can that annoy you? You break up with me, tell me to move on and then you get annoyed that I have'

 

'I don't care. One bit. Do what you want. I've no interest.'

 

I ignored it.

 

Then an hour later 'hope your date is going well, and he's hot'

 

'Seriously?! You say you don't want to mess with my head, but this shows that you actually still care. If you didn't, you wouldn't be freaking out!'

 

'I've told you. I don't. Do what you want'.

 

Why? Why freak out when he's told me to move on. I wasn't even on a date, I was at a work meeting!

[getzrekt]

You never quite know what is going on in someone's head. It could be that he had a pang of jealousy, it could be that he is just feeling lonely or it could even be that he wanted to wind you up. The point is that you shouldn't waste your time trying to work out what he is thinking and why, a) because you're not a mind reader and b) because it's no longer your concern. He made his decision, he wanted to break up. The less time you spend thinking about him the better. Carry on with your life.

 

If he has any interest in getting you back then he is quite capable of declaring that. Until or unless he does then forget him.

[Betterwithout]

I agree with getzrekt. Just jealousy and trying to get a rise out of you. It will take time for both of you to move on, but eventually it will happen. Good luck.

[Wiseman2]

Wow, yeah, your colleague was way out of line throwing in that personal stuff. What an unprofessional snake.

My colleague also put on the email, she was sorry to hear we'd split, but glad we were still on talking terms (we're not) and that he was ok with me going on a date.