I need help

[Shrut]

I have been in a serious relationship with a guy for one and a half year and Both of us believed that we were set for eachother and that we'd get married. Everything was going okay until, he got busy and I slowly started falling for another guy, and I lost feelings for my 'boyfriend'. This new guy really loves me. And I have really strong feelings for him now. But my 'boyfriend' is really sensitive and really loves me and would be broken if I leave him, considering he was cheated on in the past. He is a very nice man. I've fallen strongly for this new guy and I imagine a future with him and he also loves me greatly and does anything to make and keep me happy. At this point I dont know who to be with, I'm going to hurt someone no matter what I choose. I need help. What should I do.

[SooSad33]

Well then.. don't 'cheat' on him. You have to be honest and admit if you're not interested anymore.. and end that.

 

Not sure how well you know this other guy? But.. 'love'?... really? ( Maybe more like 'lust').

 

IMO.. this may be a case of 'GIGS'. Where you are 'thinking' things are much greater outside the relationship you've got.. but have NO idea if it will be.

 

You're going to hurt someone? For sure.. might even end up a bit confused, yourself.

In this case, I suggest you give it a break between these guys. ( Not sure how long you've been involved with your Bf?). Don't want to jump into something else and have it be a rebound.. those sting

[Shrut]

Well then.. don't 'cheat' on him. You have to be honest and admit if you're not interested anymore.. and end that.

 

Not sure how well you know this other guy? But.. 'love'?... really? ( Maybe more like 'lust').

 

IMO.. this may be a case of 'GIGS'. Where you are 'thinking' things are much greater outside the relationship you've got.. but have NO idea if it will be.

 

You're going to hurt someone? For sure.. might even end up a bit confused, yourself.

In this case, I suggest you give it a break between these guys. ( Not sure how long you've been involved with your Bf?). Don't want to jump into something else and have it be a rebound.. those sting

 

I've been with my boyfriend for an year and a half! And yes I'm confused. With the other guy, yes there's lust and there's a lot of emotional bonding. He says he'll be with me through anything and he'll understand if I don't choose him because he loves me and just wants me to be happy.

I want to break it off with my boyfriend but it's really hard because he is such a sensitive person and I'd be breaking him.

I've thought about being with him just so i don't hurt him. Even If I dont have any feelings for him.

[RainyCoast]

he got busy and I slowly started falling for another guy, and I lost feelings for my 'boyfriend'. This new guy really loves me.

this part confuses me. it's as if it says that your boyfriend's schedule emans he doesn't love you, while the new guy does.

 

if you just fall for whoever gives most gratification at the time, you don't love them either, just how they make you feel.

 

still. staying with your boyfriend out of pity is way worse than having the honesty to tell him it's not working and leaving to someone who appreciates him more. you don't have to tell him about the other guy, i don't know how he would benefit from that information.

[shessofly]

You're already cheating on him. Just end it so he will be free to meet someone who can truly love him. Don't waste his time. Who wants a pity girlfriend?

[Wiseman2]

Is this revenge cheating? Rather than continue cheating, end it with the bf.

 

You are not worried about hurting anyone (because you already are hurting 2 men) you are concerned about yourself having a security blanket/backup plan until the new guy pans out. new guy really loves me. And I have really strong feelings for him now. But my 'boyfriend' is really sensitive and really loves me and would be broken if I leave him, considering he was cheated on in the past. He is a very nice man. I've fallen strongly for this new guy and I imagine a future with him and he also loves me greatly and does anything to make and keep me happy.