Confused Breakup

[Moretti]

Hi

 

My now ex, we had been together 6 months dont live together. recently started acting out of character about 3 weeks ago, became angry, stressed and generally unhappy and only occured sometimes when we were together the rest of the time there was no issue. over the past month her dad had brain surgery, death of a friends sibling, she also is studying a PHD. I spoke to her and told her i had noticed something was up she said she had been stressed and things with her dad where stressing her out as well as everything at university. I told her that im always there for her and im always willing to listen and help. Over the weekend I texted her in the morning and she didnt seem ok, I asked if she was ok and she said i dont know im thinking about seeing a therapist or psychologist, im fine but just have some issues to sort out, she then said that everyone annoys her and makes her angry and just needs some space, she messaged me the next day asking to get some breakfast and hang out, we did that and as the day went on the more distant she became not speaking to much, we went to bed that night i asked if everything was ok and she said shes confused about what to do she doesnt know whats wrong and why she feels like this and i asked is everything ok with us and she said she doesnt know she doesnt want to make me resent her and hate her because im giving her so much of myself and she feels like shes not giving it back and she wanted some space, i ended up going home that night after talking with her and told ill be there to support you and can help you through this. She called me the next day asking how i was, and began saying that maybe we just go on a break and give her some space but still wanted me to go away with her on this weekend (we had planned a trip), i agreed if thats what she needed then im willing to help her, i messaged her to say goodnight and told her that i want to help her and im here for her and just please try not to push me away im your partner thats what im here for, she got angry and said she just wanted to be left alone, she contacted me a day and a half later and broke up with me.

[gebaird]

It sounds like she's dealing with a lot. I'd stop all contact with her and see if she reaches out to you when she's doing better. Don't wait too long before moving on, though.

 

Sorry you were dismissed so coldly. I think it's safe to say the issues here are on her side, not yours.

[Wiseman2]

It sounds like you care and are trying to be supportive and helpful but are inadvertently smothering her. Give her space and let her come to you. Lay back a bit she has a lot to sort out. Dating 6 mos is too soon for this much intensity.

we had been together 6 months. over the past month her dad had brain surgery, death of a friends sibling, she also is studying a PHD. i want to help her and im here for her and just please try not to push me away im your partner thats what im here for, she got angry and said she just wanted to be left alone, she contacted me a day and a half later and broke up with me.