This is eating at me inside all day everyday and really NEED advice.

[Coldplayy]

Me and my female friend have been friends for 3 months now. At first i never saw her as anything more than a friend because i was involved with her friend for a while but after i ended things me and her became close. Like hangout everyday and talk for hours close. Im 18 and shes 17. Latley though when we talk about things like sex and guys and girls and whatever it starts to kill me a little. Because when she talks about guys i know personally that she thinks are attractive it hurts a little. Ive always found her physically attractive and ive made that known to her and shes said the same to me. People at work are all under the impression we will end up together. But heres where it gets tricky. She told me she isnt interested in relationships which to be honest is the same for me no need for em at my age honestly. BUT she says she wants a fwb. And she has said before if i wanted to you i would but cant anyway because of our other friend. I dont really know how to take that. Like i honestly want to ask her what she thinks of me as a potential fwb and see if i can convince her to try it with me. But at the same time these feelings i have recently developed may cause me to be emotionaly attached and i dont know if i want to risk it. And i cant stand the thought of her doing it with someone else. Like its gut wrenching. And i dont know if im willing to put my friendship at risk.

[Wiseman2]

You need to decide if you want to

1) date her

2) be in the friendzone

3) ask to be fwb

i honestly want to ask her what she thinks of me as a potential fwb and see if i can convince her to try it with me. But at the same time these feelings i have recently developed may cause me to be emotionaly attached and i dont know if i want to risk it.

[DancingFool]

You can't be just friends with opposite sex when there is physical attraction. Then it just makes you "that" guy who loiters around developing feelings, waiting for a weak moment to finally pounce on her. Don't be that guy.

 

Ask for what you want upfront. Either you'll get it or get shot down and can forget her and move on to greener pastures. It will save you all kinds of grief overall and keep you from fantasy land and unrequited love type stuff.

 

As for friendships with girls, has to be strictly no attraction mutually so.

[mike7788]

You really need to ask yourself what you want.

Is your friendship more important than figuring out if she wants you for FWB

Is finding out if she wants FWB More overwhelming than the possible rejection you may feel

After rejection is finding out FWB more important than your current friendship as it will surely be done especially at your age.

 

 

You can either:

 

A) Ask her if she is down for FWB with you. I'd recommend doing this in person, as you can gauge her reaction better, and if it's good, make your move but if not possible, text it.

This can go both ways, so be prepared for rejection and the possibility of losing a friend.

B) You can say nothing. Continue to feel like crap, and resentment will grow until you may no longer feel like her friend. OR the opposite can happen and you'll become indifferent to her sex life.

This way will continue your friendship.

 

 

In my opinion, you're young, go for it. Rejection will hurt for a couple weeks until you're onto the next one.

Do you see this girl being your life long best friend? In your future wedding party?

 

If not, you have your answer.