Confusion about my gym trainer

[Ranjanasethi]

I have joined a gym 15 days back.At first my gym trainer paid a lot of attention towards me.I feel attracted to him.We smiled at each other.But now he is completely ignoring me even while training me.He tells me exercises to do and then do not pay attention at all.Everytime i have to tell him that I have done the exercises.why he is ignoring me.Does he likes me or simply hates me as he might have judged my interest in him.please help. I am married women older than him and he is still unmarried

[Clio]

You are a client and married. You misjudged his friendliness for something more. He sensed it and is now trying to correct the situation by showing you that he sees you only as a client.

[MissCanuck]

He's not interested in you beyond training you.

[greta96]

This is what trainers do, they will spend more time with their clients at the very beginning to show them the exercises, then they leave them to exercise on their own. He was just doing his job, you misread his intentions.

[Wiseman2]

He was buttering you up because he wanted your business and your money. Now he has to find new paying customers and pay attention to them. This is how he makes a living. He's not into you, you're into him. If you were getting too flirty he had to be professional and pull back.

 

What's wrong with your marriage or husband that you need all this extra attention from men?

I have joined a gym 15 days back.At first my gym trainer paid a lot of attention towards me.Does he likes me or simply hates me as he might have judged my interest in him. I am married women older than him and he is still unmarried

[JaggerJim]

I hope you were just planning to flirt a little, and not pursue this seriously. Are you there to work-out, or pick up men? You should work-out what exactly your trying to do.

[j.man]

Not meaning to be an ass, but as someone who trained folks, I can tell you the game is very simple. You're one of the dime a dozen 30s - 40s married women who hire and keep a trainer 50% to improve your workout and 50% to have attention from an attractive guy. He's being professional with a dash of friendly / flirty. It's a very easy way to keep clients. Don't think too far into it. If he wanted to score a lay, there are probably a lot of options out there for him that don't involve complicating his professional life.

[Jibralta]

Not meaning to be an ass, but as someone who trained folks, I can tell you the game is very simple. You're one of the dime a dozen 30s - 40s married women who hire and keep a trainer 50% to improve your workout and 50% to have attention from an attractive guy. He's being professional with a dash of friendly / flirty. It's a very easy way to keep clients. Don't think too far into it. If he wanted to score a lay, there are probably a lot of options out there for him that don't involve complicating his professional life.

 

Ickkkk it is so creepy when you get a trainer like this.

[j.man]

Ickkkk it is so creepy when you get a trainer like this.

Yup. Some can get flirty, even a bit handsy. Never been a fan of it, but unfortunately they exist because there's a market for them. Lot of female clients made me feel more like a male escort than a trainer.

[Jibralta]

Yup. Some can get flirty, even a bit handsy.

 

I've always felt sorry for them. Which translates to repulsed, as I dislike feeling pity.

[Wiseman2]

Yup. Some can get flirty, even a bit handsy. Never been a fan of it, but unfortunately they exist because there's a market for them. Lot of female clients made me feel more like a male escort than a trainer.

 

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[RainyCoast]

what is your concern? that you are not getting flirtatious attention? you are getting the training, which is what you signed up for, so it's hard to see your problem, unless it's disappointment in having an accomplice to an affair or aimless flirting. if you lack male attention, talk to your husband and as for hiring someone to help with it, marital counselors are the suitable and efficient option.

 

he noticed a married lady flirting and dropped anything that she could perceive as anything other that training, because he wants to remain your trainer only period. does he owe you his flirtatious attention or something?

 

so many gym trainer threads lately. i hear what the folk are saying, that it isn't uncommon for clients to be paying for 50% narcissistic validation, but it's hard to believe accounts belong to so many separate users.