How To Heal From... Emotional Abuse?

[Vanessa1]

I just recently got out of a "relationship" (meaning we never labeled it as bf/gf but we did everything the same), and feel like I'm going crazy because I can't figure out if this is emotional abuse or not. Here are a few examples of what he did during our time together:

 

-he would continuously grab my butt after me telling him to stop. One time he got mad and threw me down on the couch, held me there and grabbed me really hare, I tried to get up and fight him off and kept telling him "Stop, I don't like it", but he just forced me down and grabbed me. I told him i genuinely do not like when he does that. His response was that if I really didn't like it then I would leave. So I got up and left back to my house. Around 30 minutes later he called and asked for the $5 that I owed him, saying "C'mon, don't bail out on me, I need that money". Stupidly, I met him somewhere and gave it to him. We talked later and he never apoligized, and the conversation turned to something completely different than what had happened that night.

 

-has said "maybe if you learn to cook for me you can be my girlfriend"

 

-told me i need to gain weight. He would pat my stomach area and say "right here, you need to put on some weight right here". The more I told him to stop, the more he would do it. (I feel like this was a power thing for him, to show me I can't tell him what to do)

 

-Told me he wants to go sleep with his ex. I said if he does that then I'm done. His response "Please, don't do this to me, why are you making me choose". We had a long conversation about it and I thought it was resolved. Next day we were texting and he types "You only annoy me when you say stupid like you have to choose between me or her". Then went into this whole thing about how thoughts are 4th dimension etc etc and so I "should be able to let him sleep with someone else without being upset about it"

(More happened after this but I wanna keep this as short as possible)

 

-He'd constantly harrass me and laugh when I got visibly upset, but if I did one thing that unintentionally bothered him he'd swear and yell at me.

 

-Pretty much very time we fought or had a disagreement he'd act like it was over.

 

-One time I told him he was being controlling and he in turn accused me of being controlling

 

These are just a few things, theres more. I don't know if this was emotional abuse or not, but it definitley took a toll on me lol. Any help would be great, thank you so much!

 

PS. Looking back I can't believe I stayed as long as I did. I understand most people would be shocked but to be honest, I never truly realized how bad it was until I was out of the situation and able to look at it objectively (if it is even as bad as i think it is, or maybe Im being overly sensitive for some reason)

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