mysimone Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Hi. I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 19. We barely talk, due to him being "busy." I've brought this to his attention and he says it's because he's a bad texter/ he's too busy. I notice that he'll often happen to hang out with friends on the day that I try to meet up with him. I understand that he has two main jobs, but he has time to hang out with his friends, but not with me; when I text him in the morning saying that I'd like to hang out with him. I see him maybe, once or twice every two weeks, and I get a short text conversation maybe 2/3 times a week. What's worse is, he doesn't live far or anything. It's making me really lonely. I don't have many friends, either. The ones I do have are busy working. (I don't have a job anymore sadly) How do I approach the situation without blowing up at him like I have in the past? Is he truly busy, or is just avoiding me? It's hard for me to decipher if me being upset is okay. He said he'd consider picking me up last night but didn't. Got my hopes up extra high. First I've heard from him in 4/5 days. Which is why I'm pretty upset. He texted me yesterday saying his phone was off due to him switching carriers around 9 AM, but at 2 something he called me. Confused. Haven't heard from him today, but he's been on twitter. (I know I need to stop lurking on his Twitter, I'm trying)
limichelle Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 I would break up he isn't interested. You are too young to be trying to decipher an emotionally unavailable guys cues. You need someone who wants to be with you. There is no such thing as too busy if a guy is interested. Lisa
j.man Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 I remember your last thread with you admitting to stirring up a lot of drama. Have there been incidents since? How long have you two been together? At face value, he sounds checked out, but it could also be some needed decompression.
mysimone Posted February 9, 2017 Author Posted February 9, 2017 There has been any drama. I'd just text him good morning or goodnight, and he never replied. We've been together since Late September, so about 5 months. It bothers me because my dad always says if a guy is interested, he'll let you know. I just feel like I plan everything with him, and try to see him. I have no idea to switch that around, he used to do those things. Could possibly be that I'm just making it all up in my head.
Snny Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 You forgot to add one important detail, and I found it in your last thread: My boyfriend is 19 and a sophomore in college. So he is working two jobs AND going to school. His schedule is more demanding as a college student who is working. In your last thread (as well as here), you seem obsessed over texting and checking out his online statuses multiple times throughout the day. He is entitled his own life and his circle of friends. If he cannot make time for you, then you need to call it quits (as it was suggested in your last thread). The advice that was given still stands, yet here you come back a week later... With the same issues. There's a clue for you.
mysimone Posted February 9, 2017 Author Posted February 9, 2017 You're right. Sometimes I think my emotions get the best of me and make me upset. It's just not working out for me right now. Thanks for your input!
Ivywest Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 BabyGirl you need to focus on yourself,trust me I know this far to well (read my story) but I look back and wish I just enjoyed my early years as a teen and kept being carefree instead of running after someone who was grown already,it was a lot of lessons I learned when I got out of that relationship but the number one of all is don't take life to serious yet,drop his behind like a bad habit and go call up one of your girlfriends and go to the mall,movies,nail salon and enjoy yourself!
angrythoughts Posted February 9, 2017 Posted February 9, 2017 Oh please. People make time for what they want to make time for. I don't think it's demanding of you to want to see and speak to your boyfriend; and when you 2 speak it seems like he has no interest from what you describe. He's working and has school. Big whoop. Everybody does that from ages 18+. Some people have a job, school, and kids to take care of. Texting you and seeing you isn't hard. It takes maybe 5-10 seconds to send out a text. He can't even manage to take that kind of time out of his day to do that. He said he'd "consider" picking you up as if you're not priority. As if he'll do it if he feels like it... And then he didn't even show up to do that.To me it sounds like he's not interested and you want us to convince you that you're overreacting when you're definitely not. Talk to him about this. Communication is super important.
MissCanuck Posted February 10, 2017 Posted February 10, 2017 It sounds to me like he's lost interest in the relationship, OP.
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