Redrose21 Posted February 8, 2017 Share Posted February 8, 2017 Hi. Ive been dating a guy for 7 months. He says he loves me and wants to build on foundations for a long future together. We live together in my house. He brought a dog which he promised to care for because it's a real handfull. He doesnt and the dog destroys the home and I don't want it here. My boyfriend is inconsistent to our relationship. He often doesn't come home at night and switches of his phone for days on end, until he's ready to speak to me, when he thinks I've calmed down. He doesn't leave after an argument..he just leaves me and the dog whenever suits. His work is inconsistant and when he gets offered a bit of work he don't come home after. The only stable money is my giro and my few hrs I work. I'm now in huge debt on my home, which I've never had before. He promises to help..but he doesn't. I keep losing extra work because the turmoil of his in and out of my life. He says he doesn't want me to work..and don't help to encourage me. I suffer with depression. Last week i found illegal drug wraps in his vehicle twice! He denies any knowledge. This is my first relationship in 8 years since leaving my violent ex husband. I'm disabled in my spine as a result of him which limits my ability in everyday tasks. My new boyfriend gets angry and calls me names like idiot and stupid. This hurts because I feel stupid because I don't have a career because of my disability. Last week i sat on the bed trying to talk to him about money for my children..he stood up in anger and raised his open hand to my cheek bone. He intimidated me. Later he said he didn't do it but was more waving his hands about in frustration with me. I feel maybe it weren't that bad..maybe I'm over reacting?. Recently I tried to talk to him and he walked out of the bedroom calling me an idiot again. So I threw a pillow at him. He picked it up and slammed it back at me. I threw it back and he slammed it back again harder. I was shocked by his disrepect. The irony of it is I love the guy. No one is perfect..people make mistakes and tbh I'd really like to be in a good solid relationship to share the joys of life with. This man says he loves me and has dreams for us together..I used to have dreams of my own..until i fell in love with him very much..but now I feel my life has tumbled down. I wonder if i should kick him out and move on as a single woman again which unfortunately is not something I want to choose to be. Link to comment
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